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We just got back together been together a week I'm giving her space when we got back together I told her we didn't have to do anything she was not ready for and when we first got together we were together 3 month I didn't understand her at first and I never mistreated her she left me and last night she texted me said she thinks we should go back to being friends because she didn't want to get hurt. I texted her back saying we can be friends but I am going to be honest I have feelings for you and I don't want to play games I love you can we just put all that behind us and have a fresh start l. She text me back saying how she doesn't want to get hurt and I still could go and live with her for a while..I'm in hospital I have injured my angles... Anyway I text her back saying it's up to her I don't want to give and I was thinking clearly at the time and I got hurt too.. I got jealous she needed space I didn't know what BPD was till I met her.but I understand her much better now I'm thinking she might be doing it so I will chase her and make her feel special I have let her know I love her so I'm just going give her space and let her come to me she shared a photo on Facebook saying she needs space and she is not cutting people off. I love this girl she hurt me broke my heart but I'm not going to play the blame game I just want to be with her and have a fresh start I never cheated on her abused her mentally or physically I treated her like a princess
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Loveher, it's been a few days since you posted this. How are you feeling today?
Heartbreak can be complicated by BPD relating. I think you're wise not to move in with her. It's important to respect your own limits.
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How can be friends with her I understand that she doesn't want to get hurt I didn't move in with had a little argument but she said we can still be friends I have realized being friends is the best start I haven't had contact with her in a week so should I give her a text message
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Quote from: Loveher##1 on August 30, 2020, 11:42:22 PM
should I give her a text message
If you want to continue your friendship I don't see why not. What are your goals with her long term?
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