What if I asked you to say the same thing, yet use only 1/3 of the words.
Also...what would it read like if you DID NOT repeat the accusation.
FF, you are talking to a person who spent less time writing my early childhood dissertation than I did having to cut out 10k words as it was too long. Lol
I guess I could try, “I understand it is hard for you having these feelings. I don’t wish to have this conversation so I’m off to do something else.”
I know we are not supposed to argue or defend… but I feel like she would be even more suspicious if I didn’t even engage with the issue she’s raising. I haven’t tried it though. I am trying out new ideas all the time. My wife was in a bad mood today and criticising me for every little thing all day. It’s odd how I’m mostly only a tiny bit bothered these days. It’s been another successful day because it hasn’t descended into a horrible row. Strange thing is I can barely remember much of what she said today, only a few little things. I don’t dwell on accusations anymore and find it easier to forget. We are so busy with the dogs and kids along with my work, so that helps.