Hi captain5024;
I'm curious if you've seen this book:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=73976.0There are some typical BPD-X pairings, where the X can be NPD/NPD-type traits, or codependent/codependent-type traits. Those can be high conflict pairings.
As you work through what kind of person you want to be with, you can see if you see any of your dynamic reflected in the book, see how those couples addressed it, and decide if that kind of relationship is what you want in your future. High-conflict pairings can be "special needs" type relationships, where it takes non-intuitive skills and tools to "make it work", and "making it work" will likely not look quite like a "normal" relationship. Only you can decide if that's something you want.
Success in a BPD-paired relationship may not look like "traditional" success as the emotional needs are so different. It's kind of like what "success" would look like to a paraplegic -- are you walking? Well, no, so that part of your life looks very different from most people, yet are you successful with the hand you've been dealt? That's the real question.
Keep us posted if you check out the book -- if anything resonates with you.
Cheers;
kells76