BPD Mother - I Have BPD

[Syringeblacklon]

 
I am a mother of 1 boy who is less than 2 years old. I am adopted from Russian and have BPD and RAD and a few other disorders I also struggle with addiction. I am trying to find support and help with benign a BPD mother and not PLEASE READing up my son

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Couscous]

Hi there,

I can recommend this resource for parenting: https://www.circleofsecurityinternational.com/

They have facilitators run parenting classes all over the world. They also have a book, Raising a Secure Child.

I also highly recommend Dr Becky Kennedy and Mr Chazz on Instagram.

For yourself you could try DBT and/or Schema Therapy. You can also check out Dr Fox on YouTube.

[Syringeblacklon]

Thank you so much! I am getting into DBT therapy soon i hope if all goes well a d i will check that out as well.

[kells76]

Hello Syringeblacklon, we see you reaching out for support in parenting, which is so commendable.

As you're newer here, you might not have known that this site focuses on people in relationships with a pwBPD (person with BPD or traits). We would hate for this experience to be destabilizing or unhelpful to you, as it is not designed for supporting persons with BPD, as yourself.

That being said, we're so glad you recognize you want more support as you care about your son, who I'm sure is an absolute delight. Try these resources:

NAMI Connection is a free and reputable support group that can meet as frequently as weekly -- check out the description and see if it would be a good fit for you: https://www.nami.org/Support-Education/Support-Groups/NAMI-Connection

As an adoptee, you may have access to adoption agency "post adoption support". Even if the group that facilitated your adoption doesn't offer that kind of support, you could try reaching out to a different group (like Holt International, just as an example) for starters, and say "hey, even though you guys didn't manage my adoption, I see you have post adoption support groups -- would I be eligible, and if not, could you point me to some resources?" Adoption groups will definitely understand the impact of RAD on adult adoptees starting their parenting journey. Start here and see if seems helpful: https://www.holtinternational.org/post-adoption/adult-adoptees/

We wish you all the best!