Advice please do they really have bpd/eupd?

[Depression = 72% of members]

Hi I hope I've posted this in the correct place, I'm new here. I joined because I was looking for advice, around a year ago my family member was diagnosed with EUPD, they were seen by homebased treatment team. They are currently under cmht. Today they was told that when they are in crisis they present with the full blown disorder but at a base level they have traits not the full disorder. Does this mean that they do not actually have eupd/bpd? They have also been diagnosed with ADHD.

[Lilipad]

Hi I hope I've posted this in the correct place, I'm new here. I joined because I was looking for advice, around a year ago my family member was diagnosed with EUPD, they were seen by homebased treatment team. They are currently under cmht. Today they was told that when they are in crisis they present with the full blown disorder but at a base level they have traits not the full disorder. Does this mean that they do not actually have eupd/bpd? They have also been diagnosed with ADHD.

[Turkish]

EU=Emotionally Unstable.

Our material here was developed under clinical (professional) oversight, but none of us are professionals. It's been said that BPD lies on a spectrum. A diagnosis may also vary by professional. My medical provider does not share the BPD Dx with patients, but may refer them to CBT or DBT. This may help:

https://bpdfamily.com/content/what-borderline-personality-disorder

[Notwendy]

BPD is a spectrum disorder. I think one can see where behavior patterns are constant but they can increase with stressful situations and also are different in different situations. My BPD mother can hold it together well in social settings, but since the more intimate relationships are also more emotionally challenging, not as much with immediate family members. Since BPD behaviors include disordered coping mechanisms, it makes sense they'd increase during stressful times.

Did you hear the therapist tell your family member that they only have traits when not stressed or is this what the family member told you the therapist said? As you can imagine, there could be feelings of shame when being told they have BPD and your family member might want to minimize that. I wouldn't say they were being dishonest but may have taken this comment to mean they don't have BPD rather than being told their behaviors were not as much an issue when not stressed.

Actually, we all have behaviors that could increase during stressful times- some people may "stress eat" or want to sleep a lot- or not be able to sleep well-  but these don't usually lead to a mental health diagnosis. Some people may be more prone to addiction when under stress. People with BPD may increase their disordered behaviors during these times.