It is only now with children and being in my mid 40s I think should I move on? Can I handle Divorce, the loss of access to my kids, the costs. Or can she get better with therapy as well (she is trying and admits she is broken). It is so good to read people with exactly the same experiences. Not similar. But exactly the same. Thank you all.
Welcome! Isn't it crazy how we all seem to share similar experiences? It's such a bizarre and unique disorder. That being said, divorce doesn't seem like a good option either. Knowing a person with BPD, they will be re-married quickly and then you'll have to put up with your kids living with another man. Sorry that is such a depressing answer. How old are they?