SELF ASSESSMENT | Are you blue, green, gold, or orange?

[MindfulJavaJoe]

I'm Blue.

Is this why my BPDw chose me?

[Samuel S.]

I tested to be blue.

[bluecup11]

Hmmm I'm blue, but I feel more green and would rather be orange... .

[Sir5r]

Very Green

[CinnamonRadio]

14 Blue 10 Green

Yay!  I like Blue.  Blue sounds nice.  The list that was posted earlier by Skip is very descriptive of me. 

It can't be a coincidence that so many of us who have Borderlines in our lives are blues... .I wonder why that is.

[on the mend]

Blue 13

Green 11

So many blues!

[diotima]

I started taking this test and couldn't get very far because for most of them I am both of the answers and neither answer was more prominent than the other. The test would not have represented who I am. ditto for the co-dependency test. Not all tests here are like that but this one most definitely is--no either/or for me!

Diotima

[Beach_Babe]

Equal green/blue  followed by gold, little orange

[BattleBornMom]

Overwhelmingly Green -- which, according to descriptions posted subsequently, describes me spot on. Right down to the "Agnostic" label. I tend to see the complexity and "unknowable" aspects of just about everything, from religion to psychology.

And the Frustration Chart -- oh boy! Exactly what drives me totally bonkers in other people and exactly what other people "accuse" me of being.

The other three colors were pretty evenly split between them. However, Green was almost double their total.

[BMama]

Gold 13

Green 9

Blue 8

Orange 6

I'd say gold is right on... .GOLD - You are a planner

You're a reliable organizer who can be counted on to implement other people’s ideas and get the job done. Your complete color spectrum is shown above.

You are conventional. You are the pillar of strength and have high respect for authority. You like to establish and maintain policies, procedures, and schedules. You have a strong sense of right and wrong. You are naturally parental and dutiful.

You are good at  things that require organization, dependability, management, and detail. You need to be useful and to belong. You are the sensible, stable backbone of any group. You believe that work comes before play.

I got a plaque when I left military service... .the words organizational skills appear on it.  What's that tell you?  The naturally parental part, seems like a great thing, but how it happened, and how it plays out with others isn't always positive.

[argyle]

Green, followed closely by gold, not so closely by orange, and blue was pretty low.

I'm seeing 2 spikes here.  The big one is for blue - I'm guessing that's people who care too much and stay with BPDs.  The other is a green/xxx mix. Maybe people who aren't present-focused and stay with BPDs?

Oh meh.  I think the real spike is... .no oranges.

--Argyle

[pspap]

Blue

Bl : 15

Gr: 12

Gl:  6

Or: 3

[Undertowed]

Your Primary Color: Blue  

13

Bl

   

10

Gr

   

8

Or

   

5

Gl

BLUE - You are a Helper

Congratulations, you are a primary Blue. Your communication style creates peace and harmony in the workplace.  As a Blue personality you are gifted with tremendous people skills. Your complete color spectrum is shown above.

You have a strong need to make a difference in the lives of other people. This strength is immediately noticeable in the way you make heart felt connections and bring out the best in those you encounter. People usually feel relaxed and comfortable in your presence.

You love to build self-esteem and make others feel good about who they are. You can easily motivate and inspire people to make changes in their lives and reach their potential. This natural talent makes you excel as a counselor, teacher, social worker and journalist, but the list is far greater in the books.

[BattleBornMom]

Argyle, I thin kyou are onto something.

"Orange

Active, adventurous, impulsive, fun-loving,

flashy, bold, optimistic,  tolerant, smooth,

energetic, skillful, open, competitive,

powerful, charming, generous, brave,

flexible, exciting, daring"

I have this in me, but it is by no means my dominant personality type. What is there was inspired by my adventurous non-Dad and is concentrated in areas of adventurous sports (enjoying the wilderness, snowboarding, speed sailboating, windsurfing, etc).

But, really, how could any of us be predominantly "flashy, bold, optimistic, daring, impulsive, or open" after what we have experienced. My uBPDm crushed any spark of that in me as a child. Those traits were punished.

[Jen48]

Have you noted 75 percent of us responding to the poll so far are "Blue" 

[Jen48]

Take the Test (20 questions)

Skip, which is the orange and which is the gold in this pie?  I'm seeing an orange/yellow at 2% and a red at 30%.  So, is the red the orange or is the red the gold?  TIA

Interesting that the majority of us who took the poll are blue.

[Jen48]

Hmmm I'm blue, but I feel more green and would rather be orange... .

I agree, here I am in blue again, but I might want to be orange today, and green tomorrow, but then again I wear a lot of black these days (oh, it's not on the chart!). And Gold is not my color.

[Major_Dad]

11 Blue

10 Green

9 Gold

6 Orange

[Jen48]

What frustrates you. 

What frustrates others about you.

True?

I'm blue. Everything on the list. Everything that H. was.

As for me, I am too overly generous when it comes to what H. wants. Guilty as charged on suppressing problems

- or at least, I used to.

[Jen48]

What frustrates you. 

What frustrates others about you.

True?

I'm blue. Everything on the list. Everything that H. was.

As for me, I am too overly generous when it comes to what H. wants. Guilty as charged on suppressing problems

- or at least, I used to.

Modification - H. does not agree to divorce; it is "I" he says who abandoned him because I left due to his violent behavior, and I should come home and work "these things" out. I am not graciously or generously taking care of his needs anymore over mine. And, living with him at this point would destroy me as much as he says living a part is destroying him.

Personal rejection is frustrating him but also me. His personal rejection of my need for boundaries --  to give me the space I need, or to always, always cross boundaries  is pushing me further away -

[OTH]

Green. Go figure.

[argyle]

Oh yah... .

Green: 12

Gold: 10

Orange: 8

Blue: 5

(If memory serves) If I'm ever bored,  I'll try to do some sort of histogram - I'm wondering about cross-correlation.

Kind of cool... .blues and greens are overrepresented by about 3x compared to the general population, oranges are underrepresented by ~10x, and golds are underrepresented by roughly 2x.  So, the predisposition for blues and greens to be in troublesome BPD relationship is quite high and oranges either steer clear or deal with them more easily?

I'm actually inclined towards, to some extent, to the the deal with more easily option.  At least, I've noticed that BPDw is less problematic around aggressive, dominant people.

--Argyle

[qcarolr]

Gold - 15, Green - 10, Blue -10, Orange -1

The gold description does describe how I see myself very clearly.

qcr

[jardin]

13 Blue, 11 Green, 7 Gold, 5 Orange

[methinkso]

Blue

[diotima]

Well, I was green but blue was close. I don't like either/or tests but decided to take this anyway. I would have appreciated some middle categories because I don't think (hey, I am green!) this has enough intellectual nuance.

Green: 14

Blue: 12

Gold: 6

Orange: 4 (I am sure my ex would have a high orange and green score).

Diotima

[MarieLauren]

Blue.

[hangintherebaby]

I am kind of relieved to know that I am:

Blue.

I find this interesting, because my xpwBPDbf tried to make me think that I was someone who had no compassion for his feelings... .I feel like that's all the relationship was about, his feelings! Mine were of no matter.

Blue:

compassionate,

idealistic,

affectionate,

empathetic, caring,

nurturing, a

communicator &

valuing feeling

I flourish with

encouragement

rather than

competition

I seek harmony,

warmth & romance

As a child:

I was imaginative &

creative

I scored:

15 blue

8 orange

7 gold

6 green

I revealed my full scoring for the powers that be on this site. In an effort to aid them with their monitoring of me and to help them figure me out ;o)... .

[ViciousCycle]

Green

Didn't even have to take the test to figure that one out, but I did anyways  I'm an extremely deep thinker, I can analyze things that involve psychology to the core (Not only has learning about BPD been helpful to my situation, but I'm actually really really interested in this stuff). Agnostic, yep, I tend to be open to all beliefs but look at religion as a "who knows?" kind of thing. Whoever posted about Green's and Blue's looking for the potential in someone rather than the truth of behavior, that's definitely me. I looked past way too many red flags to count with my uBPDx, because I saw so much potential in her to be a good and happy person. I still do, I don't look at her as evil, I look at her as a sick person that may never realize her own potential.

I'm very good at getting people to open up and motivating them to become better people, to guide them in the right direction and let them take the reins from there. I guess that characteristic is what lead to the parent/child dynamic of my relationship with my uBPDx, this is something I've worked on and have improved on controlling a lot. Interesting test to say the least.

[whitedoe]

BLUE- 16

Green- 14

Gold- 5

Orange- 1

Very interesting!


WhiteDoe