Home page of BPDFamily.com, online relationship supportMember registration here
July 10, 2025, 03:07:24 PM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins: Kells76, Once Removed, Turkish
Senior Ambassadors: SinisterComplex
  Help!   Boards   Please Donate Login to Post New?--Click here to register  
bing
Experts share their discoveries [video]
99
Could it be BPD
BPDFamily.com Production
Listening to shame
Brené Brown, PhD
What is BPD?
Blasé Aguirre, MD
What BPD recovery looks like
Documentary
Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Print  
Author Topic: Use of own child as supply / replacement?  (Read 489 times)
KE151
****
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Posts: 311



« on: March 25, 2012, 02:54:19 PM »

My exuBPDgf is now a single mum (she could already have found someone new though). WHAT IF she cannot find a "proper" replacement i.e. man, sex, highs, or it ends up in trouble early on, can she / will she use her own child somehow as supply?

Terrible thought as the 5 yr old girl is so sweet and i care for her deeply. But, knowing the girl, she is already presenting very real emotional stability issues of her own, a miniBPD in the making.
Logged
GreenMango
Retired Staff
*
Offline Offline

Gender: Female
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Posts: 4326



« Reply #1 on: March 25, 2012, 04:02:51 PM »

KE151,

Unfortunately mentally ill people can be woefully bad parents... .shoot non-mentally ill people can be woefully bad parents.  Parenting is an art and a skill good parents realize.  Some people have kids for selfish reasons... .it happens and it affects their kids.  Your right it is sad... .if it was your child you could do something about it.  Sadly, it is her child. Not much you do there.

-GM
Logged

refuge
***
Offline Offline

Posts: 145


« Reply #2 on: March 25, 2012, 10:05:44 PM »

Yes.Absolutley

I dated a cluster B for 3 years,she had a 12 year old... he was 8 when I met him. It runs in family lines. In looking back, I believe she is full dissociative identity disorder. She used to tell me in bed why her son was so good about going to bed on his own and on time. When he was a baby she would let him cry himself to sleep.Trouble is thats not what happens, they go into shock and dissociate. When this happens all through childhood you have the makings of a multiple or DID child right out of the box.

I suspect now she had a companion alter his age. I could tell now because they would pair up- and it was like they were in sync talking to me about something (she) wanted ... its weird stuff...

The ones with abondonment disorders tend to use there children as surrogate spouses. Her father , who I'm fairly certain abused her into adult hood, would show up on her doorstep everytime a wife left him.

Logged
borderdude
****
Offline Offline

What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic Partner
Posts: 295



« Reply #3 on: October 08, 2014, 09:28:54 AM »

Does supply means you are being idolized ... .in this case of your parent?


My bipolar/BNP mother did not do that i yhink, she usually projected her bad traits to me, parenified me, but most she projected her hate towards my (divorsed) father onto me.
Logged
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?

Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
 
Jump to:  

Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife



Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2020, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!