Are they liars or just delusional?

[Depression = 72% of members]

The latest now is that we have been flagged by the Ministry of Children and Family and are sending a Case Worker to the house. I told her some pretty detailed things and she seemed to get the picture where BPD was concerned.  She asked if it would help to see us together or separately and I told her that I would prefer separately but beware of his tricks about shifting the real issue of the problem of "he said , she said' but to the complete inappropriatness of his behaviour and actions in front of the children... .and me.

The truth is, often I don't even remember the thing that set him off but just his wildly crazy behaviour.  He grew up in a military family so he does respond to authority to a degree so I told her that maybe he needs to be read the riot act about how damaging his actions and language are.

He is away until Monday night but I told him last night on the phone what's going to happen and of course he is 'oh great, the government. Can't trust them'.  So typical.  I said that they are, and rightfully so, concerned that the children are witnessing abuse and violence.  He said there is no violence or abuse towards them, which may to a degree be true but WITNESSING it can be very frightening and scarey.

I can just tell what's going to happen.  He will come across as totally Mr.Reasonable and Mr.Willing to set things right and things may even improve for a bit but as soon as the heat is off it will go back to his crazy ways.

[trying_hard]

The latest now is that we have been flagged by the Ministry of Children and Family and are sending a Case Worker to the house. I told her some pretty detailed things and she seemed to get the picture where BPD was concerned.  She asked if it would help to see us together or separately and I told her that I would prefer separately but beware of his tricks about shifting the real issue of the problem of "he said , she said' but to the complete inappropriatness of his behaviour and actions in front of the children... .and me.

The truth is, often I don't even remember the thing that set him off but just his wildly crazy behaviour.  He grew up in a military family so he does respond to authority to a degree so I told her that maybe he needs to be read the riot act about how damaging his actions and language are.

He is away until Monday night but I told him last night on the phone what's going to happen and of course he is 'oh great, the government. Can't trust them'.  So typical.  I said that they are, and rightfully so, concerned that the children are witnessing abuse and violence.  He said there is no violence or abuse towards them, which may to a degree be true but WITNESSING it can be very frightening and scarey.

I can just tell what's going to happen.  He will come across as totally Mr.Reasonable and Mr.Willing to set things right and things may even improve for a bit but as soon as the heat is off it will go back to his crazy ways.

[goinbonkers]

I can just tell what's going to happen.  He will come across as totally Mr.Reasonable and Mr.Willing to set things right and things may even improve for a bit but as soon as the heat is off it will go back to his crazy ways.

Unfortunately that's usually par for their course.