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« Reply #30 on: February 13, 2013, 06:18:45 AM » |
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"An Error Has Occurred!
Many apologies, but you can't view just any profile."
I still get an error report. I notice some new members like me could read 2010's posts, but I can't.
Anyone have a suggestion on how I can read her posts or for anyone on this board to read them?
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« Reply #31 on: February 13, 2013, 06:23:35 AM » |
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Hum, how did bobbyvp and tigertiger, both new members like me, who posted just about as many as me get to read 2010's posts, and I can't?
Anyone have suggestions?
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« Reply #32 on: February 13, 2013, 09:56:41 AM » |
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I think you need a minimum number of posts before you can read other profiles. Just post a few more times and I think you might get in.
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« Reply #33 on: February 13, 2013, 04:33:40 PM » |
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Yes, the minimum number of posts is 10!
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« Reply #34 on: February 13, 2013, 04:40:31 PM » |
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Ok, i'll see if posting more works... . thanks
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« Reply #35 on: February 13, 2013, 04:40:54 PM » |
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This is my 10th post. I'll cross my fingers
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« Reply #36 on: February 16, 2013, 08:14:03 AM » |
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I have read the first 60 posts of member "2010" and I have been blown away by the insight and the depth of understanding of the BPD-nonBPD relationship. It is stark and real. I have winced in agony as my role as a nonBPD and can see how I am part of the drama and dynamic of keeping this kind of relationship alive. I could understand that NC, disengaging, and indifference are effective ways to stop the drama. OMG! Anyone who is on this site must take a look at member "2010's" posts. You will be enlightened.
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« Reply #37 on: February 17, 2013, 09:49:13 AM » |
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2010's posts sound like what exactly I have been looking for all this time I have been looking for on the message board all these past few days
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« Reply #38 on: February 17, 2013, 09:51:03 AM » |
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*all this time I have been looking on the message board
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« Reply #39 on: February 21, 2013, 06:04:54 PM » |
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Really want to read those posts. Hoping this post will make it happen.  |
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« Reply #40 on: February 21, 2013, 06:26:24 PM » |
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2010 isn't an active member any more?
i feel like i need to talk to her... . anyone have her contact info they can private message me?
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« Reply #41 on: February 21, 2013, 09:08:44 PM » |
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If I had read this six months ago, I would not have recycled this last go round.
Her words have given me strength to let go -- and not out of anger or revenge. Just to accept the disorder and let go.
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« Reply #42 on: February 21, 2013, 09:19:51 PM » |
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i've read her posts, and am making my way through all of them, but what are her thoughts on sticking around and helping someone with BPD?
or does she just advise to let go and move on?
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« Reply #43 on: March 07, 2013, 01:07:07 PM » |
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Just posting so I can read 2010 posts
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« Reply #44 on: June 25, 2014, 04:49:21 PM » |
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Reposting this because there are a lot of new people here. Reading 2010, did and still does help me the most to move forward and detach.
In fact 2010 has made some recent apperances and her recent posts have been no less brilliant. The road to freedom is in this post and following the suggestion of reading 2010.
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« Reply #45 on: June 25, 2014, 04:55:49 PM » |
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I agree tausk.
One thing I am curious of that she does touch on often is about the our own FOO issues and some sort of breakthrough towards becoming the "real self" If anyone has more insight into this aspect I would really appreciate it.
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« Reply #46 on: June 25, 2014, 05:59:16 PM » |
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2010's posts inspired many of us take a long journey into the world of psychology. Understanding what happening behind the curtains is the only way to detach for those with analytic mindset.
Keep in mind that we have at least two different school of thoughts describing Borderline Personality Disorder, one is Masterson(2010) and other is Kernberg. They differ in terms of how and why the symptoms appear. After finishing the posts, which I would recommend in the first place, you may want to get familiar with a sligthly different perspective.
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« Reply #47 on: June 25, 2014, 06:12:58 PM » |
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In fact 2010 has made some recent apperances and her recent posts have been no less brilliant. The road to freedom is in this post and following the suggestion of reading 2010. 2010 gives very good insight into the disorder and our role in it. As you read her posts, you will understand she had one heck of a ride to getting to the place of understanding. For everyone who does read it, make sure to use the knowledge to detach enough so you can actually grieve. It is easy to do the "us vs. them" but if you get to the heart of what 2010 has done it is to rebuild her own self worth from a truly worthy place. You will find some great information on the PI Board when you journey over there and start digging into your own psyche's. Tausk, not calling you out - just using your post as the reference point for 2010 is all. |
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« Reply #48 on: June 25, 2014, 11:50:40 PM » |
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(BTW, 2010 states his gender is 'male'
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