Taking the Initiative and going NC

[Oneneatguy]

I've read many of the posts about detaching from a failed BPD relationship and the number one recommendation I see is NC.

I've also see that people struggle with this, myself included.

Last weekend I ran into my exBPD.  She tried to strike up a conversation with me.  A part of me wanted to but I know where the conversation would end up, in a huge fight about our divorce.  I am not saying she would start it, I am still raw over the experience but I know where it would end up.

So I politely said I didn't want to have a conversation with her and that I didn't want to talk to her going forward.  Some of my family members felt this was rather harsh that I should let bygones be bygones and try to be friends.

I would be friends if I was emotionally detached, I'm not  and for my own well being I said I want No Contact with her.

Most of the posts I read are about the BPD going NC not the other way around.

Has anyone else done this, said I want NC.  What can I expect to be left alone?  We have been divorced 7 months, every few weeks or so in the past she has called me, generally she needs my help with something.

She told me she was casually dating and exploring other relationships through a online dating site.  As soon as I said that I wanted NC going forward, I get the impression she went exclusive with one guy.  Gut feeling is she felt abandoned by me and latched onto someone right away.

Anyways I am curious to what others have experienced. Over the next few months I will see my ex every other week, unavoidable circumstances.  I am so concerned about getting sucked back in, I don't even want to say hello to her. I know I am still vulnerable and don't want to leave any openings. At the same time, I don't want to appear like a childish man being rude to his ex wife.  She actually said I was acting immature.

Any advice or comments would be helpful.