update:
Well, I think I met someone that Im going to like.
No chemistry... .but a good guy I think is attractive and who is really trying to "wow" me... .so I going to be positive and have fun with it and see where it goes.
I still think about exBPD... .but he totally hates me and has gone, no contact with me so... .I did email him a few weeks ago as it is hard for me to go from hot sex and "love" to nothing... .its nothing I can't live without... .but it is like an addiction... .and its him that is curing me by enforcing NC... .
Im glad for it... .as I have a hard time staying away from him and if i were totally honest... .if he wasn't with anyone else... .I would take him back... .a moth to the lightbulb... .but he is punishing me and turned the lightbulb off so this moth will have to fly away and find a new light bulb - preferably one that doesn't burn so bright ... .but one that casts a warm light... .instead of blinding and burning.
Will update in awhile to let you know how new guy is faring