I actually found that same article before I found this board. I have read it over and over. It is my experience as well. There is another good read:
www.narcissismfree and it gives some interesting thought provoking ideas that resinate with with my situation as well. A friend on these boards told me about it. Perhaps you will feel some empowerment when you read it as well. I am looking for things that empower me to leave. This is way to much pain for me to endure. Having a teenager who is stuggling with her first love breakup is actually helping me. i am telling her that love shouldn't hurt... . hmmm? She does not know of the pain I am in as (luckily) I didn't allow him into my childrens lives. How can I give this advise to my child and not listen to it myself? The answer is I can't. I have been NC since before Christmas. I will never persue my BPD again. The question is... . will I be strong enough to withstand the pull when they contact me again? God... . I sure hope so. Working hard everyday to ensure just that. Wishing you well. Love yourself enough to allow yourself the happiness you deserve.
