uBPDexgf was never really mean

[wb1233]

She(30) was beautiful and vulnerable it seemed. The passion we had was intoxicating. Wanted to be with me 24/7Lasted for a good year. But for that matter I(41) was ok with it. I totally fell in love with her. Then the push and pull regarding marriage. 

There were a lot of signs in the begining. Not a whole of boundarieseither.  The fact her mom had married 4 times was the first red flag. Her wanting to be married 6 months into our r/s was another. She was never really mean but would react hyper-emotionally to stress. Cry a lot. She'd get upset and get quiet then I would press the issue to resolve it only to be told I was mean then it would escalate to nonsensicle reasoning, deflection. It seemed like it cycled every 3 months. Really strange.

[AllyCat7]

She was probably the waif/internalizer type, like my last guy. They don't rage outwards, but inwards--using passive aggression, push/pull, manipulation, etc. Aside from the crazy-making behavior, they can be quite angelic... .  which makes them hard to hate! And makes one put up with the crazy-making behavior longer. I had one year amazing time and one year crazy-making time. He would bring up marriage and when I finally said yes, all the madness began.

The push/pull regarding marriage in your relationship, was it her who was pulling away when you mentioned marriage or vice versa?

[wb1233]

She's the one who kept pushing for marriage. Every anniversary or special occasion or holiday like Valentines day she would expect for me to propose to her. I told her I did want to get married but some of her behaviors were very unusal and I would tell we needed to resolve issues but she unable to see things at times from my perspective. She also was jeleous of my kids. In a very immature manner. I eventually bought a house for us and a wedding ring last year. When she officially moved in, that's when the crazy making started and eventually fell apart.