testing waters

Katlvr

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testing waters

« on: January 31, 2013, 07:29:02 PM »

Do any of you all notice that your BPDso will go on dating sites after arguements? I have found that mine does and when I catch him he denys it... or there will be times I feel like he is seeing or texting someone else and is extra sensitive and rages when I call him on it... and than all the sudden he will be super extra attentive to me (I think when the other person decides they think he is strange and he dumps them or they dump him)...


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Katlvr

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Re: testing waters

« Reply #1 on: January 31, 2013, 07:57:10 PM »

sorry to vent just feeling very alone in all this... :'(


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Re: testing waters

« Reply #2 on: January 31, 2013, 08:02:18 PM »

Mine has done this too. He did this the week before last during another one of his " I'm done" episodes. I KNEW he would so i got on the site and registered with no pics so I could search the site. It's a popular site so I knew he would come there. Sure enough after three days I searched him and he popped up as a new member. He had a full profile and pics. I messages him and a few messages later revealed it was me. He was so shocked! You have never seen anyone delete and shut down a profile so fast. Now he wants to buy me a new car. Go figure. Last time he ran out and got my named tattooed on his arm to show me that he did really love me after leaving me for the fifth time. He uses facebook as like an undercover dating site.


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Chattgirl

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Re: testing waters

« Reply #3 on: January 31, 2013, 08:04:15 PM »

I'm sorry your going through this. It hurts so much


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Re: testing waters

« Reply #4 on: January 31, 2013, 09:08:05 PM »

Lots of them seem to do this. Mine did too. I think in alot of cases there just testing, flirting chatting, looking for validation.


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Re: testing waters

« Reply #5 on: January 31, 2013, 09:51:13 PM »

Just insecurity, trying to prove to themselves they are worthwhile.

After all if you are not act like the sun shines out of their bottom, then you must hate them right?


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