Splitting?

[Apple white]

After a very quiet week the abusive emails started today.  I have not replied to them but OMG they are horrible.  I have been working on detachment and acceptance and was getting on well.  This has made me feel sick to the core.  I will remain NC but I'm worrying now what his next step will be.  Any advice please as this is very hard to comprehend.   thank you.

[Rose Tiger]

Hi Apple white,



I'm so sorry you are getting abusive emails.     Is he threatening any kind of violence or harm? 

Your best bet is to no reply and use some self soothing tools, breathing exercises and things to help calm your nerves.

TOOLS: Triggering, Mindfulness, and the Wise Mind

[trouble11]

Apple, So sorry.  What a horrible position to be in. By that I mean, if you're worried about what he might do next you really can't just delete emails without reading them.  That, of course, would be the easy answer.  I'm fortunate in that department, mine was never abusive even in an email. 

[Apple white]

Hi ,  thank you for your advice.  I have been reading another post from SummerT321 which I should have read before I posted I guess.  It would appear that because I told ex I had evidence of his lies and deceit last week it has taken him a week to have a think about it and now I'm being hated.  This was obviously a big secret part of his life which I had no idea about.  It is true, the more knowledge we get about BPD at whatever stage we are at, we seem to get confirmation from the behaviour of the BPD sufferers we know.  It is fascinating but at the same time shocking and hurtful. I'm still in the early learning stages so I have got a way to go yet. Thanks again for being there.