More Fake Fb adding

[ChrisJ31]

Yet again I have  a stupid fake profile trying to add me, added 2 of my friends even though my profile is on lock down, now the profile has been deleted.

I also used to pay her cell phone bill, so it was registered in my email, I received an e mail off the provider last week saying "I" had changed my username to... .  "my e mail address".

Not upsetting me just making me think, how childish and a lame way to get a reaction off me, does she think I'm that stupid.

This is after nearly 5 months nc, initiated by me.

[asher2]

Chris... .  I'm about 3 1/2 months into NC initated by me as well and although I do not have Facebook, I was receiving text messages a month or so ago asking how I was doing from numbers I did not recognize. The first time I got one of these, I responded "Who is this?", to which I did not get a reply. The next time it happened (coming from a different number), I didn't respond and I haven't received one since.

You are right. It is childish and it is done to get a reaction. Perhaps even more, this is done so she can (in her own mind at least) still feel connected still to you. These attempts are probably coming at a time when nobody else is there to soothe her. In my situation, if it was her sending the texts (and I'd be willing to bet it was), I wouldn't be surprised if things weren't going well at that point in time with the guy she replaced me with.

You were once there to sooth her and she is just going back to the well to see if water is still there.

[ChrisJ31]

Chris... .  I'm about 3 1/2 months into NC initated by me as well and although I do not have Facebook, I was receiving text messages a month or so ago asking how I was doing from numbers I did not recognize. The first time I got one of these, I responded "Who is this?", to which I did not get a reply. The next time it happened (coming from a different number), I didn't respond and I haven't received one since.

You are right. It is childish and it is done to get a reaction. Perhaps even more, this is done so she can (in her own mind at least) still feel connected still to you. These attempts are probably coming at a time when nobody else is there to soothe her. In my situation, if it was her sending the texts (and I'd be willing to bet it was), I wouldn't be surprised if things weren't going well at that point in time with the guy she replaced me with.

You were once there to sooth her and she is just going back to the well to see if water is still there.

I too was replaced with a new man, new life and i agree, that is what they are looking for.

Thing is my well is dry now, might fill it up with p i s s , she can come and drink all day then

[Seb]

I was getting random text messages too! From a number I did not recognise asking how I was, who I was, etc. They were so persistent, texting for a week without a response, claiming it was their new number at first, but the phone has been switched off ever since. ... .  So childish! At first I thought I was being paranoid thinking it was my exgf... .  seeing as we had been NC for 6 months. But the more I hear of things like this happening to others here, anonymous text messaging, fake fb adds, the more I'm convinced it was her!


Ask yourself - has that kind of thing ever happened before? I'm guessing the answer is no.

[ChrisJ31]

Asher, I was getting random text messages too! From a number I did not recognise asking how I was, who I was, etc. So childish! At first I thought I was being paranoid thinking it was my exgf... .  seeing as we had been NC for 6 months. But the more I hear of things like this happening to others here, the more I'm convinced it was her!


Ask yourself - has that kind of thing ever happened before? I'm guessing the answer is no.

Bet it was

I have had it before off a previous ex ( not BPD )

Had texts, phone calls and she set up a fake myspace profile ( This was years ago ) Of a fake girl and I fell for it but sort of new but kept messaging cause I knew it was her and when I finally started asking for a meet I got loads of bs, so in the end I just said I know who you are and that was it .

That's why I know what is going on now, Ive had fb 6 years and never before we split 6 months ago have I had made up profiles try add me.

[seeking balance]

Chris - good job not taking the bait!   

[ChrisJ31]

Chris - good job not taking the bait!   

Thanks Seeking

A little scrap of chewed up sweetcorn will not work.

Must try better bait

[asher2]

Seb... .  I can relate when you say you went sure if you were just being paranoid or not in wondering if it was her. Shortly after we broke up, I came home one night when it was dark out, parked my car and as I stepped out of the car, I looked up and saw what I thought was her car parked around the corner. As soon as I saw the car, the other car took off down a dead end road (there is no reason for cars to go down that street, especially at the time of night this happened).

I remember thinking "Was that her or am i just going crazy?" I remember thinking that maybe it was just my mind messing with me because I had been thinking about her so much. But looking back at the situation in it's entirety (and with a lot less emotion than when this occurred) I'm convinced it was her.

For what I've read about BPD, it's not uncommon for odd things like this to happen, again in very bizarre attempts to stay connected to you. When we broke up, my ex would not come and get her stuff from my place, wouldn't give me my key back and initially, would send me texts as if we were still together. Abandonment fear is at the root of BPD and they want to keep us around just in case option #104 doesn't workout. Guess what? Option #104 won't workout and option #105 is probably right around the corner. For me personally, I've chosen NC and I refuse to play her game.

[ChrisJ31]

That's what it boils down too game playing and I'm pretty sure you lot have played just as many games as me, perhaps more.

The out come of these games where that I never won or at least drew, just got more confused and more hurt and upset.

[ChrisJ31]

Thus

I will not be playing them again