DBT Therapy Starting Next Week...

[inepted]

Ive searched the forum, but I cant seem to find too much on the topic. I know what DBT is, but I'm curious what it will entail. My BPD is starting DBT group therapy next week, and I'm curious what to expect. She seems extremely dedicated to getting better, and I really do believe her.

I'm just wondering if others have any experience with their persons with BPD? How soon might one notice results? If they are truly willing to make the therapy work, how well does it work?

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[Somewhere]

dunno.

But Super for you all.

Let us know how it goes.

Good for you.

[inepted]

I'm sort of holing my breath at the moment... .  she wants a quick solution to fix her issues.

Last year she started to see a therapist, thinking that would help. It helped for a couple months then she fell back into her old habits.

Its the same thing every time. She tries something for a couple weeks, but when she sees no change she regresses and goes back to her old habits.

The only difference this time is her own parents are forcing her to go, as they're the ones currently paying the $4000 bill for the DBT classes.

[rosannadanna]

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[Cloudy Days]

Well, my mother in law is paying for my husband's DBT bill, and yea, it's hefty. My husband has been in DBT for around 8 months now. I started seeing a few things getting better after 4 months, I think the real changes have started to show in the last few weeks though. I see him actually using the skills. Chanting peace or calm when he really just wants to blow up on someone. He walks away from me more often when he is mad so he can calm down. I have noticed a few things to be aware of. He is almost always worse after he goes to therapy, it could take him a few hours to an entire day to get back to normal. I guess it just opens up those feelings and makes him deal with them. Which puts him in a bad mood.

He does tend to skip therapy when he shouldn't. He will skip it when he's in a good mood, and he hates group therapy of course that could be because he's a male and he is usually surrounded by females in group. In 8 months I have seen progress. Nothing I would consider permanent but it's a step in the right direction.

DBT therapy is basically a set of tools that are proven to help people deal with their extreme emotions. Some of the things they have taught my husband are breathing excersises so he can learn how to calm down. The chanting thing so he sort of snap out of his anger. They teach them communication techniques so they can learn how to get what they want without throwing a fit. A lot of the stuff on this site is actually taught to them.

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Thats kind of what Im worried about. Ive noticed once she feels like things are going well, she stops the skills shes learned from previous therapy. She was doing really well with doing DBT diary cards, but as soon as she "felt better" she stopped, while everyone around her noticed shes regressing to old habits.