Hypersensitive to rejection / Embarrassing

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Hey guys, I'm hypersensitive to rejection right now... .  from friends, family, business partners, people on here... .  it's like I'm seeing insult and rejection when there isn't any. Why do you think this is? I may have been looking for rejection from exwBPD when painted black... .  she tried to keep it together, and I could really feel her anger though she was trying to suppress it. I would be hypersensitive to rejection during this time, and it would be a vicious cycle... .  of me mustering up the strength to try and break through her splitting with some love and getting twisted all over the place... .  

In any case I am making a fool out of myself with friends, business partners, and women... .  if they say something that hurts my feelings or reminds me of an experience wBPD I definitely react emotionally.

I am going to work on some DBT stuff... .  things are definitely getting better, but this is pretty embarrassing and I wanted to know if anybody could relate to this... .  

I think a lot of it is just projective identification... .  I got so used to the awful things she would tell me... .  

[stoic83]

Hey guys, I'm hypersensitive to rejection right now... .  from friends, family, business partners, people on here... .  it's like I'm seeing insult and rejection when there isn't any. Why do you think this is? I may have been looking for rejection from exwBPD when painted black... .  she tried to keep it together, and I could really feel her anger though she was trying to suppress it. I would be hypersensitive to rejection during this time, and it would be a vicious cycle... .  of me mustering up the strength to try and break through her splitting with some love and getting twisted all over the place... .  

In any case I am making a fool out of myself with friends, business partners, and women... .  if they say something that hurts my feelings or reminds me of an experience wBPD I definitely react emotionally.

I am going to work on some DBT stuff... .  things are definitely getting better, but this is pretty embarrassing and I wanted to know if anybody could relate to this... .  

I think a lot of it is just projective identification... .  I got so used to the awful things she would tell me... .  

[seeking balance]

These relationships tend to leave us raw & vulnerable - there is also injury to the "healthy" narcissistic part of us.

I was very sensitive also - it helps with time and really to challenge my own thinking when this occurred.  This was a dbt skill - glad you are looking into them.

Keep working on rebuilding your self - positive affirmations do wonders also.