MakeItHappen... . you can't keep getting "roped back in"... . if you don't put your neck your for the noose to go around... .
As long as there are means by which she can communicate with you... . you are granting her access.
What is your biggest fear in blocking her? In taking away her ability to taunt you over social media?
Fear that she will go away for good?
Fear that you won't know what she's up to?
Fear that she will show up on your front door?
Yes, exactly RedCandle. I know how he feels, but really, why can't MakeItHappen just block her and be done with it?
We are all hurting, so it's important to remember who caused that hurt. Block her on FB, as I did to mine last night after I discovered she had unblocked me. The way I see it, she would only unblock me to eavesdrop, which she did recently and sent me a cut and pasted conversation with my part missing and said that I was talking about her. The fact that the conversation had nothing to do with her, and the fact that she could not even see what I said, did not matter to her. Facts usually don't matter to my ex, it's all about her feelings.
What are you really afraid of? That she will say on FB that you are a bad man? A liar, a cheater, abusive, manipulative, whatever... . it doesn't matter. If she's going to vent, let her vent. It's reasonable to expect that most people know she is a loose cannon anyway, and probably put very little stock in what she says. My ex had two public meltdowns on FB. It may have affected what people thought of me, but it certainly affected what people thought of her.
So block her on the landline, the cell, and FB. Leave her email to vent. If you don't block her, you know she will somehow cause pain or havoc in your life.
Better you don't even see what she is doing on FB. My ex could put on such a facade on FB. Her life is really a charade. There were times when we would fight at night, and she'd be on FB the next morning all cheerful. When I asked her how she could do that-I knew she could not be happy. She said that what she put up for on FB was often not what she really felt. Her posts were phony, as she often was.
They, or at least my ex, really is a hollow shell. There is little if any substance there as far as decency, honest emotions, empathy, sympathy, maturity, kindness.
