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« on: February 17, 2013, 07:31:05 PM »

I blocked my ex on facebook. Today i saw a post a mutual friend made about how well a short movie where my ex's little daughter stars has been recieved. And the one who commented on it was one of the guys whom my ex had an emotional affair with. He even called her while I was in bed with her in the middle of the night this fall. I believed her when she told me it was nothing. Hmm... .  It really hurts my male ego! How do you guys handle this kind?

Writing this I realize I have to block him as well. Flash of enlightenment Smiling (click to insert in post) My brain is not working I guess it is the depression...
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« Reply #1 on: February 17, 2013, 08:05:47 PM »

Actually this turned out a HUGE victory for me! I made a creative choice in dealing with this, and Blocked HIM from my facebook. Felt so good afterwards because this would "normally" tip me over into an abyss. Now I conquered it face to facebook Smiling (click to insert in post) Now I actually know I am improving and this little incident is proof to me!  Smiling (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #2 on: February 17, 2013, 08:21:29 PM »

Awesome! I've had to block mine, and everyone associated with them. Sounds petty, but looking

at that stuff just brings more pain. Good for you !
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« Reply #3 on: February 17, 2013, 11:42:08 PM »

Bravo. Out of sight out of mind. I shut my facebook down about 6 months before it all came crashing down. I had a gut feeling. I've stayed off since.

They say that if it usually looks like *hit, and smells like *hit, it usually is *hit. ... .  What helped me was that the last of what you experienced in the demise of your relationship is the reality of the relationship. We have a tendency to ruminate about the good. But finding freedom is in the "radical acceptance" that the last represents the whole. It wasn't you... .  it wasn't them... .  it was the disorder.
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« Reply #4 on: February 18, 2013, 12:37:13 AM »

I shut mine off 1,5 year before the relationship crashed. It was an emotional struggle to reclaim it. I have been up and running now for 2 months. It started feeling ok again this weekend, after I blocked her. I unfriended her and took away the tags on my pictures so they would not show on my page a month ago, she disappeared from facebook shortly after, and then I got hit hard when she reappeared on my birthday on friday. jaird said I had to man up and block her, I did and felt safe for the first time. Been posting pictures for the first time in years, commenting, hooking up with former friends, organizing meetings with an attractive girl, (met her as well two times while here on vacation), set a date to visit a long time friend who lives in Brazil in other words enjoying the benefits of facebook as a tool. This was a little bump in the road, but I stayed on track. The higher self Inside me, thank the guy for keeping her occupied and also hope it goes well with him. I'm in no position to warn him, it is not my responsibility, I am out now and this last week has been so good, much better than before, not perfect but happy moments. At times I even forgot about her for short whiles and was puzzled by the possibility of that! Up and down I go, the road is bumpy, but in the horizon I glimpse hope!  
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