Have you learned anything valuable from the interaction?
Yes. I haven't wanted to admit it, but she is verbally and emotionally abusive towards me.
does it really help either of you when you let her rage at you?
Honestly, I don't think it helped either of us. I think she feels about how someone feels after they've vomited. Me, I still dirty from the vomit.
Do you have the power to "get through" to her?
No I don't think I have power in her life. The evil in my FOO is so strong and she is believing them so much that she has become their spokesperson to me from them.
Can you manage her moods?
Nope, I'm powerless to manage her moods, only mine.
What do you want things to look like moving forward--how will you take care of you?
Won't be answering her phone calls until I have assurance that she understands (from an email I sent her) that what she did is wrong and I won't tolerate it... . so I guess I've gone to LC with my own DD.
What has been difficult is my DH was within earshot of the conversation (my side) and was in agony hearing what was going on and how I suffered. I've had more opportunity to process it, but he is struggling and just says he wishes he could have gotten me to hang up the phone so I wouldn't have had to suffer. I guess I thought it only affected me and no one else. But it did affect DH greatly also.
As far as taking care of me... . I kept my regular schedule and connected with my good friends this week... . went to lunch, talked to several of them about the situation,etc. Trying to keep my regular usual schedule of healthy things I normally do... . in spite of how I feel (still somewhat numb, hurt, and angry).
The FOO's goal is to divide DH and I by whatever means possible... . even using our very own flesh and blood. So sad that she is blind to their evil.
