First impressions

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I've been separated and NC for nearly two months now. We only communicate strictly as-needed for our son and we've mitigated conflict for most of that. When I left I was broken. Rock bottom. Thought my life was over. Felt like a failure because I couldn't save my marriage when I [thought] I was the one who cause all the problems. I was in a level of depression and anger I never knew existed.

To make a long story short, I reconnected with old friends, made several new ones. My journal is up to 35 pages single-spaced. I've been out on a couple of dates and my confidence is coming back strong. I've joined a Bible based support group, gone to meditation classes, exercised heavily and I'll be running in my first 5k next week. My performance at work has improved.

On several occasions, people who have seen me on and off since I moved out say they notice a difference in me as soon as I walk into a room. They can tell that I'm doing much better than I was that easily. My gait, my affect, how I sound when I talk are all different. One of which was my therapist who discharged me that day after going there for nearly a year; part of it with the STBX. Does anyone else experience this?

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I've been separated and NC for nearly two months now. We only communicate strictly as-needed for our son and we've mitigated conflict for most of that. When I left I was broken. Rock bottom. Thought my life was over. Felt like a failure because I couldn't save my marriage when I [thought] I was the one who cause all the problems. I was in a level of depression and anger I never knew existed.

To make a long story short, I reconnected with old friends, made several new ones. My journal is up to 35 pages single-spaced. I've been out on a couple of dates and my confidence is coming back strong. I've joined a Bible based support group, gone to meditation classes, exercised heavily and I'll be running in my first 5k next week. My performance at work has improved.

On several occasions, people who have seen me on and off since I moved out say they notice a difference in me as soon as I walk into a room. They can tell that I'm doing much better than I was that easily. My gait, my affect, how I sound when I talk are all different. One of which was my therapist who discharged me that day after going there for nearly a year; part of it with the STBX. Does anyone else experience this?