Epiphany

[Beware of Junk Psychology...]

The last few days I have been thinking alot over my failed relationship with my exBPD, but I have finally been able to start to see the light as to what was so terribly wrong in that relationship.

From planning events with her, then pulling out at the last minute because SHE no longer wanted to do it, to awkward social situations where she was ridiculously anxious over a few drinks with friends and you end up having a long chat to convince her to come on the telephone.

Well I don't want that life any more. I've finally realised that I can't help her, and her using me as a tool to make her a fraction happier in HER eyes is not on and not what I want in life.

One day, I hope that she finds the inner happiness and peace that she took from me, but for that she will have to begin to understand why she keeps pushing people away.

I feel sad that she is alone, but at the same time I am thankful that I finally woke up and smellt the coffee. I've begun to realise that there is more to life than propping someone else up, and there ARE relationships out there, that are not too good to be true.

[Mistified247]

The last few days I have been thinking alot over my failed relationship with my exBPD, but I have finally been able to start to see the light as to what was so terribly wrong in that relationship.

From planning events with her, then pulling out at the last minute because SHE no longer wanted to do it, to awkward social situations where she was ridiculously anxious over a few drinks with friends and you end up having a long chat to convince her to come on the telephone.

Well I don't want that life any more. I've finally realised that I can't help her, and her using me as a tool to make her a fraction happier in HER eyes is not on and not what I want in life.

One day, I hope that she finds the inner happiness and peace that she took from me, but for that she will have to begin to understand why she keeps pushing people away.

I feel sad that she is alone, but at the same time I am thankful that I finally woke up and smellt the coffee. I've begun to realise that there is more to life than propping someone else up, and there ARE relationships out there, that are not too good to be true.

[Rose Tiger]

Exactly, if you keep propping someone up, how can they learn to stand on their own?  It's ok to be supportive if you receive support in return.

[healingmyheart]

Good for you... .  don't know how long it took you to reach this point but you are there and that's all that matters.  You are definitely in a good place to move forward.