Time Issue

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

When I first met my exBPD SO her ex husband was apparently evil satan to her, over the course of two years he somehow turned back into a nice guy that she was going to get to pet sit or house sit for her.  Honestly I think that this guy was smart enough to never speak to her again after what she did to him.  Now I am the evil one to her apparently.  I have no clue what lies she has told her family about what I supposedly did, but I'm at peace with no contact with her now and forever more, I've blocked everything she could contact me with.   I just have a funny feeling that in a year or two I will magically turn into a good guy again.  I read other people's posts on here that say their BPD SO's do this same thing only for a few weeks or few months.  I think honestly that would be even worse to waiver constantly back and forth like that.  I will totally give less than a damn if or when mine turns me back into a "Good" person in another year or two.  I would love to hear everyone else's splitting experiences. 

[ScotisGone74]

When I first met my exBPD SO her ex husband was apparently evil satan to her, over the course of two years he somehow turned back into a nice guy that she was going to get to pet sit or house sit for her.  Honestly I think that this guy was smart enough to never speak to her again after what she did to him.  Now I am the evil one to her apparently.  I have no clue what lies she has told her family about what I supposedly did, but I'm at peace with no contact with her now and forever more, I've blocked everything she could contact me with.   I just have a funny feeling that in a year or two I will magically turn into a good guy again.  I read other people's posts on here that say their BPD SO's do this same thing only for a few weeks or few months.  I think honestly that would be even worse to waiver constantly back and forth like that.  I will totally give less than a damn if or when mine turns me back into a "Good" person in another year or two.  I would love to hear everyone else's splitting experiences. 

[mango_flower]

My experience is different - I am not sure I was painted black?  She said all the right things, as in "I don't hate you, I'm sad we didn't work, I just thought you didn't love me" and she has stayed in touch.

However, I have a sneaky suspicion that she is playing the victim to her new gf and her new friends about big, bad me.

We will see.