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« Reply #60 on: March 12, 2013, 01:40:14 PM »

I just think it's cruel and playing games

Like he revels in getting in touch just to remind me 'he's still there'

Got a busy week (so hopefully feel a bit better soon)

Hasn't upset me like the last few times, kinda like it's ANNOYING because I am moving on. I've accepted it over.

He broke my heart and I just think it's nasty. Has to make me out to be the bad one because he can't deal with HIS 'emotions'
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« Reply #61 on: March 13, 2013, 07:05:04 AM »

Anyone? Just so confusing
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« Reply #62 on: March 13, 2013, 07:14:28 AM »

Yes, it IS cruel. YES, he might want you to know that HE IS THERE... .  Glad you have a busy week... .  focus on YOU... .  

It WAS nasty. He does NOT deal with his emotions and he does NOT treat others respectfully because of it. He is NOT able to have a normal, healthy relationship with anyone.

You did not cause it, you cannot control it and you (and I or anyone else for that matter) CANNOT CURE IT.

Say "I AM WORTH going on and having a good life even though this dream had "come true and died"... .  that is how I FEEL also. I must tell myself that it is OVER and I am NO LONGER BEING CONTROLLED AND KEPT PRISONER by the emotions of a mentally ill man  my baggage ... .  it is a good thing.

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« Reply #63 on: March 13, 2013, 08:22:21 AM »

I just don't get it, don't think I ever will

What's the point of sending little messages every few weeks (either nice/nasty) or both

Not actually trying to make a conversation with me? So what's the deal with that?

HE ended it, HE told me to move on. Only person who isn't moving on. Is HIM

Just hope that's end of it now, when he see's I've blocked him
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« Reply #64 on: March 13, 2013, 08:28:15 AM »

Discarded26 ... .  remember... .  this isn't really about you... .  it's about easing his feelings, allowing him to know you are still "there"... .  even if it's breadcrumbs to you, to him it's important/essential.

If he is a pure N, then yes it's intentionally cruel... .  if BPD?... .  it's about fear and need... .  

Either way it is triggering and upsetting you... .  and YOU are the only one who can give yourself closure... .  

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« Reply #65 on: March 13, 2013, 08:37:36 AM »

Discarded26 ... .  remember... .  this isn't really about you... .  it's about easing his feelings, allowing him to know you are still "there"... .  even if it's breadcrumbs to you, to him it's important/essential.

If he is a pure N, then yes it's intentionally cruel... .  if BPD?... .  it's about fear and need... .  

Either way it is triggering and upsetting you... .  and YOU are the only one who can give yourself closure... .  

Oh I know it's all about HIM. My feelings haven't even crossed his mind

I think he's just trying to paint me black. He's gone from drunk texts of saying he loves me, (an accident text) then saying MIGHT have made a big mistake etc, to accusing me off seeing my friend. Then I'm apparently stubborn not talking and I should grow up?

Just is child games. I'm kind of upset but I'm not upset. I've cried too much over him, don't think I have any tears left to cry

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« Reply #66 on: March 14, 2013, 11:42:11 AM »

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