Silent treatment? What to do

[sitat1]

Hello,

shortly i've been dating this girl with BPD for 4months. I am 34 she is 32. The relationship had ups and downs. We do not meet very often but whenever we are together we have great time, sex is great and then the following week everything is great. Then comes 1-2 week period when she is kind of depressed and does not want to go out etc. Then again we meet and everything is fine for a week. Last time i called her she did not answer nor called me later. I texted her a few days later, she said she was not in mood and made big deal out of some of the words i said. I replied to contact me when she is in better mood and said goobye. She did not even say goodbye. For the first time she acts this way. So my questions is, what would be the right thing to do? Stay silent and give her space till she contacts me or something else? Thanks

[Daveh]

sitat1, it may help you to read this thread, perhaps post again or ask some questions with regard to what you may discover there.

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=196007.msg12215925#msg12215925

[sitat1]

Thanks for the post, i read the thread but i don't find it close to my situation at the moment. I mean we have not broke up yet, it may eventually be the case, but so far just no communication.

Personally i believe that i give her space by not communicating so that she can contact me when she wants(if at all). But i do not have experience with BPD people, so not really sure what she thinks and how she feels. If anyone has success strategy for silent treatment and BPD people, please share.

[Rose Tiger]

  Hi sitat1

Here are a couple of links that you might find helpful... .  

BPD BEHAVIORS: Silent treatment - verbal abuse.

The Do's and Don'ts for a BP relationship