Confused

[Lillimur]

I have been with my BPD partner for 9yrs. She has started DBT and was doing brilliant. Last night she took an overdose and physically and verbally abused me. This was the worst attack. She has shoved me before but last night involved kicking, punching, slapping, hair pulling and clawing at my face.

I guess what I am looking for is where do I go from here with that? she has been in bed all day and I just can't bring myself to speak to her. I don't know how to get back from this.

Any advice would be welcome

Thankyou

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[arabella]

 

Sorry to hear about the recent setback - that sounds traumatic! Are you okay?

I guess the place to start is to look at what you want. Do you want to stay with your partner? Are you thinking of leaving? Still trying to decide? There are specific boards here with great advice tailored to each situation. There are also lessons available that teach us how to cope and how to set up boundaries for our health and safety. It's really important to ensure that you aren't being injured as you navigate your relationship with your pwBPD.

How long ago was your partner diagnosed with BPD? How long has she been doing the DBT?

[OTH]

 

An overdose? Of medication? Can you clarify? If this happens again I would call 911. It sounds like she should have been hospitalized or jailed for both her protection and yours. Please call 911 immediately if she ODs or becomes violent.

Are you OK? Do you have someplace else you can stay?

[sad but wiser]

Hi Lillimur.  I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.  I suggest that you read a lot of posts on these boards.  What you will discover is 1) You are not alone and 2) You have been having a relationship with a disorder.  It isn't your fault and it wouldn't matter who she was with, the story would be pretty much the same.  All the best.