It is so unfair that you can do everything right -- you can be one of the world's most adept partners of someone with BPD -- and it can still blow up like this. The tools, the understanding, they really are not a solution. When people say they allow you to not make it worse, that really is all we can do. We cannot heal what goes wrong for them.
Indeed! I accept things as they are... . no expectation of him changing, but hope that I can continue being strong and when I'm not feeling my inner strength, I'll be right here regrouping.