It seems to happen in 6-month cycles

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Hi All,

Thinking back on the past 2-3 years, I realized that the ups and huge downs that I've been through with my uBPDw (I hope this means undiagnosed BPD wife, since I'm new here) seem to happen in 6-month cycles, almost like clockwork.

Is this common or expected?  I started to explore this with my therapist, who asked if the cyclicality might even be due to anything I had been doing differently, perhaps even as simple as reacting to something differently, which my wife (with extra sensitive emotions) could pick up on.  It's an interesting question that I will explore.  And I also wonder whether others have found a regular pattern with the BPD in their lives.

Thanks!

[zaqsert]

Hi All,

Thinking back on the past 2-3 years, I realized that the ups and huge downs that I've been through with my uBPDw (I hope this means undiagnosed BPD wife, since I'm new here) seem to happen in 6-month cycles, almost like clockwork.

Is this common or expected?  I started to explore this with my therapist, who asked if the cyclicality might even be due to anything I had been doing differently, perhaps even as simple as reacting to something differently, which my wife (with extra sensitive emotions) could pick up on.  It's an interesting question that I will explore.  And I also wonder whether others have found a regular pattern with the BPD in their lives.

Thanks!

[cj8121]

It's so funny you mention that about cycles.  I over the past several years have put together a timeline of ups and downs of my uBPDh and I have seen the same thing. Summer months seem to be alot better but from sept to April it's downhill.  This whole thing is very up and down.  Keeping a journal helps too.  I have gone as far as when he says something I write it down and make him sign it. That way he can't deny or switch it onto me what he says. 

good luck!

[hithere]

Wow, 6-month cycles don't sound too bad... .  mine was with her monthly cycle, she would always be extra crazy for the few days before her period until it was over.  General stress could trigger her anytime but monthly crazy days were guaranteed.