preparing for NC. thoughts.

[pixiepie]

I've had a rough week with my pwBPD.

Im thinking about trying NC again but feel its necessary to prepare. I've done some reading around brain chemistry and interpersonal relationships and what happens to our moods/feelings when we leave the love object or in this case our pwBPD. We are already in a heightened state of anxiety from the behaviours... . is there any way to alleviate what I can only describe as the dopamine crash that happens when we stop contact with them?

Has anyone tried keeping themselves stimulated and bouyant by listening to music? I have read some studies which indicates some music stimulates dopamine in the nucelus accumbens, the part of the brain responsible for feelings of reward around love, food, addiction etc.

Is it possible do you think to alleviate our physiological/emotional discomfort by spending periods of time in NC just listening to music?

Im thinking on the hop so forgive me if this all sounds abit ridiculous.

[SheChangedMe]

I am very new here, however; I have been in extremely emotional relationship for over 20 years.  The thought of stopping all communications with her is very enticing.  But I know it would not be long before she is pounding on my door at 2 a.m. or screaming at the top of her lungs while lying in the middle of the driveway (She has done both several times).

Listening to music has never helped me (or her) calm down at all.  I do not get excited and yell and scream, but I do have a LOT of anxiety waiting for the next eruption.  Music does absolutely nothing to help me.  Just my 2 cents.

Best of luck.  God Bless.

[pixiepie]

my pwBPD is not a door pounder but a bridge burner. Interesting though how each configuration affects how we respond. I wonder if people in my situation whose BPD cuts off and leaves them adrift would benefit at all in a lull time?