my first step to get better after being dumped

[Depression = 72% of members]

**I'm sharing my own semi success in feeling better and hope it help others or others to help me advance more** i been in a 3 years relation with a woman has BPD and she detached , the problem in short is suffering the loss and lots of other issues that i may call "un finished business" , such as anger and guilt. I realised now I'm in square of 4 corners messing up my life, 2 solid facts and 2 feeling , the 2 facts are my love for her and her rejection to me . The 2 feelings are my anger for all the unfare things that i tolerated to be with her and my guilt for all the bad i did or the good i failed to do. The 2 facts work together in same direction hurting me while the 2 feelings still hurt but in opposite directions like acid and alkali , so mixing them together made those pains significantly reduced almost canceling each other. Now my mind is more clear of confusion and can assist my heart to endure the loss.

[squashed.human]

**I'm sharing my own semi success in feeling better and hope it help others or others to help me advance more** i been in a 3 years relation with a woman has BPD and she detached , the problem in short is suffering the loss and lots of other issues that i may call "un finished business" , such as anger and guilt. I realised now I'm in square of 4 corners messing up my life, 2 solid facts and 2 feeling , the 2 facts are my love for her and her rejection to me . The 2 feelings are my anger for all the unfare things that i tolerated to be with her and my guilt for all the bad i did or the good i failed to do. The 2 facts work together in same direction hurting me while the 2 feelings still hurt but in opposite directions like acid and alkali , so mixing them together made those pains significantly reduced almost canceling each other. Now my mind is more clear of confusion and can assist my heart to endure the loss.

[GreenMango]

Hi SH

Grief is a very hard thing to deal with.  I felt a lot of those mixed emotions too.  It seems like it takes sometime to sort through.