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I have posted on here for some time that my stbexBPDw won't let me go. It's beyond BPD. It is stalking. Intimidation. Boundary busting. Contemptuous. Dangerous. She agreed to settle divorce but is now dragging her feet trying to win me back. Alternating between true insanity and her version of being nice. This morning she is in church with her family. She text and asked what I needed. I asked that she stop putting pressure on me. The harder she pushes for reconciliation the more outlandish her statements have become and the more I want away from her. This morning when I asked her to stop she informed me that GOD has instructed her through his word not to. That she will never leave me alone until divorce papers signed. That will be a couple months. Could be next week but she declines to let me go. I watched zero dark thirty last night. Lots of torture tactics displayed. Physical and mental. I can relate.
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Keep your chin up mate
I can't send you any energy as im completely energyless myself, but keep your chin up
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Bad enough she is chasing me my friend. Now she has god on her side. What's next?
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Quote from: lost007 on March 31, 2013, 04:52:51 PM
Bad enough she is chasing me my friend. Now she has god on her side. What's next?
Doesn't hearing 'the crazy' helping you to detach?
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The main reason mine claimed to leave me (beyond me acting badly toward her) was due to difference in beliefs and that she was "reconnecting with God".
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Ham. The answer is yes. No doubt. But her attachment to me borders on stalking and I can hardly function. But yes it makes me want to run! Mtc- just don't get religion being used as a weapon. I understand beliefs. But when that person is being instructed to stalk u by a deity? Something wrong there.
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Religion is a very slippery slope with Borderlines. They can use it either way it seems... . as a reason why you have to be with them or why they have to leave. The funny thing is I've actually been going to church to help me get through things, as one near here has had a "hope" series going on. ::shrug::
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That's great mtmc. I'm a believer. I just don't believe in it as a weapon. My stbex finds and loses Jesus about as often as one loses a matching sock. It's awful to watch. And to be subjected to. But it's no different than any of these other behaviors. Constancy is a real problem.
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I hear that. I'm just now realizing that when I met her, she was in a non-religious "phase". She had been a very devout Christian earlier in her life, and she was going through a period of getting away from that, being unsure of her beliefs, and doing a lot of partying/things like that that she'd never done before (even though she's 25) which led to an alcohol problem that spiraled out of control and started her going to AA finally. Now, every single FB post is a bible verse, something about God/Jesus, or something about how this life is short and fleeting and all that matters is eternal life.
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Sounds familiar. However no substance issues on her part. On the other hand I found myself drinking too much. Now that I am separated alcohol has disappeared. This woman is a terrorist who declines to let me go. Why not recruit the savior to make sure she gets what she wants. That's what it's all about anyway right. Make sure they get what they want even if it doesn't match your goals. And even when destruction has been the result of her aberrant behavior. She's just all over the place. Hope yours is giving you some peace.
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Mine is giving me peace, but I didn't want it. It took me a several weeks for me to give HER peace. I've been painted black, and now religion and some new dude are going to save her from my horribleness.
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That is truly awful, and I feel for you being dragged along by her crazy train. All I can humbly suggest that if she is claiming this now, she must be running thin on excuses and ways to influence you. Perhaps that is a good sign?
Stick with the path outta this nightmare. Stand firm and be sure to look after yourself well as it takes so much energy to deflect the constant influx of crazy. Good luck mate
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