Sorry, jedicloak, the rainbows and unicorns I ordered for you didn't show up!
Or did you want a light sabre instead?
Her hurt is real... . and right now, she just doesn't have much capacity to see beyond it and recognize how her actions hurt you and you need to protect yourself.
I'm afraid that what you are seeing today is the difference between doing the "right" thing and doing the "easy" thing. Still, the more you take care of yourself and the healthier you become, the better equipped you will be to cope with her in a way that isn't harmful to yourself or her. Keep working on it!