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[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I guess it was expected - I read his  reply to my order. Lies, false allegations, high drama... .  

My L told me not to be upset. With the incident where he hurt me, he said he never touched my left hand. False. He says he wants Wed through Sat custody because I am an unfit mom. So my L said if I think of anything to email her. Is there anything I'm forgetting?

He has a letter from his therapist saying he is not suicidal! He made comments right to me saying he wishes to die and should just leave me and the kids alone. My daughter fell the other night- he called the school to have her checked out. He included that saying I didn't treat her! Help!

I believe this man is dangerous. Don't I have a say? My L told me the courts may let him have weekends.

[Mind]

I guess it was expected - I read his  reply to my order. Lies, false allegations, high drama... .  

My L told me not to be upset. With the incident where he hurt me, he said he never touched my left hand. False. He says he wants Wed through Sat custody because I am an unfit mom. So my L said if I think of anything to email her. Is there anything I'm forgetting?

He has a letter from his therapist saying he is not suicidal! He made comments right to me saying he wishes to die and should just leave me and the kids alone. My daughter fell the other night- he called the school to have her checked out. He included that saying I didn't treat her! Help!

I believe this man is dangerous. Don't I have a say? My L told me the courts may let him have weekends.

[ForeverDad]

Weekends - Lawyer meant alternate weekends, right?  That's typical for the non-custodial parent.  I'm not saying he's typical, just that the court may be willing to gravitate in that direction.

Abuse - Family court is likely to give less attention to adult behaviors and focus more on his parenting behaviors.  Not saying that's right or what will happen, just what often happens.

Denial - He can deny all he wants, it would be a surprise if he didn't deny.  Strange that he said he never touched your left hand.  (So what part of your body did he admit he 'touched'?  )

Well, all his therapist can state is that he does not appear suicidal.  T can't state H never made suicidal comments elsewhere, either in misery, manipulation or threats.  That is far outside the scope of T's ability.  And I believe that is what your H really did, cunningly making you feel pressured, guilted or influenced to do what he wanted.

[livednlearned]

When you say it was his response to the Order, do you mean the counter claim?

If so, I understand the anxiety you feel. But truly, the counter claim is almost meaningless. My L told me that the judges don't read them -- N/BPDx is an attorney, and his counter claim was written by him (my L said N/BPDx's lawyer did not write that way, and she had worked with him a long time). There were all kinds of bizarre allegations, including me telling S11 to tell his teachers that his dad was an alcoholic.

None of it mattered.

[Mind]

Really? Wow. Yes it's his response to my order. That's probably why my L said not to be stressed and that it was procedure.

FD- the bottle was in my left hand; the comb was in my right hand. I heard my oldest tell the L that daddy grabbed the bottle out of my hand. The cap went flying and the impact was so strong that the spring was stretched out. He put in there that he never touched my left hand. How do you think the spring got stretched and my wrist is now injured? Frustrating.

Question: is it reasonable to ask for sole custody with supervised visitation to start? Our conference is tomorrow and I really don't know what to expect.

[Matt]

If you think he may have psychological problems, ask your lawyer about the procedure to have both parties take objective tests, like the MMPI-2.

Objective testing is likely to show serious issues, and then you can make the case that someone with his issues is a risky parent for the kids.  (By the way, how old are they?)

If you can show that he has a psychological disorder, and that his behavior puts the kids at risk, then asking for supervised visitation may make sense.

[Forward2free]

He'll never tell the truth. In fact, he has probably already started believing his own lie. That's why they are so good at avoiding consequences for their actions.

N/BPDxh once punched me in the chin (full fist) when I was holding DS2 and DD4 was at my feet. I had a swollen chin and a bruise - which I hid and I didn't tell anyone what happened to appease his threats to harm me more. The kids were young enough to talk about it, but young enough to forget quickly (although both still remember it 4 years on)

He told everyone - lawyers, police, psychologists etc that he was leaning in for a kiss goodbye and he slipped and accidentily hit me with the back of his hand. What the heck? Anyway, he will never admit or tell the truth to anyone. Everyone gets a variance of his story of the minute and the courts need to take a guess at who is the most credible. Its harder that it seems, he is better at lying and much more convincing than I am at telling the truth. Professional Conman.

I hope your side of the story/truth is easier to prove, but in so many of these instances it's he said/she said... .   and they believe the truth is somewhere in the middle, which would be perfectly fine if both parties told the truth