Keep focused on the facts and stay in the now as you continue to detach and grieve.
After a long angry period, I'm beginning to 'soften' in my feelings. This quote is helpful because the facts are that his actions have caused great pain, his words great confusion even if I do feel that the actions and words stem from his own pain and confusion. I need to hold on to the facts as i continue to detach and grieve.
Radical Acceptance means we are realistic an in the moment. Hope tends to be in the future.
I read this post earlier and I was thinking about 'hope' during the day, realised that the past months have been the first in a very long time that I have not had hope for the relationship (he's about to marry someone he's dated for a short time but the hope had gone before I knew about her).
My hopes were about the future - the good times giving me a glimpse of what I thought our relationship could be. But being 'realistic in the moment' means accepting this is not going to happen. In 'this moment', I am dealing with the fallout of his latest attempt to feel better.