BPD During The Idealization Period.

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

When we first get into a relationship with pwBPD we have all experienced the idealization period. However, during this period is it safe to say that pwBPD would not cheat on us? Or are they capable of cheating from the first day the relationship begins?

[Willingtolearn]

When we first get into a relationship with pwBPD we have all experienced the idealization period. However, during this period is it safe to say that pwBPD would not cheat on us? Or are they capable of cheating from the first day the relationship begins?

[BorderlineMagnet]

Absolutely. While my expwBPDgf was beginning a r/s with a guy behind my back, she was still doing stuff with me. So while I was getting cheated on, so was he. But from day one. And that stupid white trash is still with her. Even though they apparently fight about me all the time after only being together barely 2 months (found out I'm a big topic of discussion through a recent LC email). Lower the brain power, easier it is to hook them I guess.

[Bananas]

Yep! Come to find out my ex was juggling 3 spanning the last 4 years.  I was number 3.  We have all been recycled at least once.  There is overlap in all of the relationships.  I think he is currently back with number 2, even though I was at fault for making a mess of his life, because I ruined his relationship with her when I discovered he was cheating.   

[flynavy]

You bet... .  mine has an 8 year relationship with her main guy... .  was engaged to me(while still seeing him)... .  left me to marry him(unbeknownst to me)... .  started seeing me sexually 2 months later while engaged... .  oh... .  and still would see her first ex husband... .  even go on vacation with him... .  picjed a guy up in Home Depot because he flirted with her (he was married and arrested at her house for identity fraud) this was before me but while committed to Mr. 8 years... .  got back with me and I asked her to marry me again... .  she said yes (I know she was engaged to Mr. 8 while we were getting back together)... .  oh... .  and still meeting anyone who would pay attention to her.  Since her second marriage divorce in 1995 her sisters and I figured out there have been approx 12-15 men in her life in 17 years including me.  Needless to say I got a full STD blood work panel done from HIV to Syphilis... .  all negative thank God.  My ex's sister who is a psych nurse believes she is both Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorder combo... .  crafty liars... .  extremely private... .  masters of deceit... .  and utilize high intensity sex to mask the child who is pain!

[VeryFree]

I'm pretty sure mine did never cheat on me.

Not during our first months and not in the ten years after that. Not even when we didn't share the same bedroom anymore.

I could be mistaken, but although she has fallen down in my opinion, I'm pretty sure she hasn't.