Therapy

[Wishful thinking]

Hi

My BPDh and I are staying in a country where we dont have access to good therapy.  The Mental Hospital here advised that there is nothing that they can offer us.

My h refuses to go to any therapist who cannot deal with BPD. 

Is there any other ways to get therapy. Are the online DBT services any good?  Skype?

Really desperate.

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[arabella]

My h refuses to go to any therapist who cannot deal with BPD. 

To be honest, this is probably just as well. A person who doesn't know how to treat BPD can often makes things worse rather than better.

Is there any other ways to get therapy. Are the online DBT services any good?  Skype?

I know some therapists will do telephone sessions. I have no idea how well this would work for BPD treatment. I think it would be very difficult. Skype is an interesting idea, that would probably be at least a little better with the video enabled. You could certainly call around to BPD specialists in other countries and ask them what they could do for you, no harm in gathering the info! You can also buy DBT books - some of them are excellent and often recommended as part of BPD treatment therapy.

I have no experience with the online DBT services so I can't offer any input there - perhaps someone else here will know?

[zaqsert]

I don't have remote DBT suggestions, although I will be following this thread because I think it's an interesting idea.  I too am away from home.  For me it's a temporary assignment.  My uBPDw and D2 came along with me.  Now that I know about DBT, I would like to find a way to offer up the idea to my wife, but there are no DBT therapists local to us right now.

I have done plenty of phone sessions with my T.  I am comfortable with it because I worked face-to-face with my T for at least a couple of years first, before switching to phone sessions.  I joked at first that I really could lay on the couch for analysis.  To make this work, you have to be really good at verbalizing what you're feeling.  In my experience with marital T sessions with my wife, so much of what she is experiencing comes across in her body language that I'm not so sure phone sessions would work well for pwBPD.

Skype can be great.  We have been doing Skype sessions with our marital T.  She seems to be a great psychoanalyst, but I'm starting to think that she is not going to be able to help us, as I really believe it's BPD that we're dealing with, and my wife does not open up long enough to analyze herself.  Too much of it gets projected.  But that's another story.  The point here, related to your question, is that I do believe Skype can be a pretty good alternative to in-person therapy.

[Wishful thinking]

I went to see my Psychiatrist today and asked him the exact same thing regarding Skype etc. he said he will look into it for me as he sees my BPDh as well. So Im keepin my fingers crossed. Thanks for the input guys. Will keep you updated.