Thinking of therapy

[Sharkey167]

I'm approaching the 10 month point and for a while I thought I was doing better but in many ways I just can't get past this. I'm contemplating going to some therapy sessions because my friends just don't get it, 1 does cause he knows her but I have talked to him enough about it.

Am I being premature or is it a good idea?

[Octoberfest]

my dBPDex and I have been split for a month now and NC for 4 days and I am looking into it.

So I hope YOU aren't being premature

[Sharkey167]

my dBPDex and I have been split for a month now and NC for 4 days and I am looking into it.

So I hope YOU aren't being premature

Ha yeah I  guess I should have entertained the thought sooner.

[stop2think]

It's never too late for improvement and choose the path to better life.

Good luck, take care!

[Sharkey167]

It's never too late for improvement and choose the path to better life.

Good luck, take care!

I'm gonna try it. Thanks guys.

[GreenMango]

It's okay to need help and reach out for it.  It's a good thing and will be probably help with the harder parts of healing.

Let us know how it goes.

[Bananas]

I would say go for it.  It has helped me a lot.  My therapist can be supportive where my friends can't.  She really helped me to see that I wasn't the crazy one and the actions of my ex do strongly indicate some sort of cluster B disorder.  But more importantly, she has helped me work on me. 

My friends mostly have the "he's a jerk, just get over it" attitude, which really doesn't help.  This board too, has been a lifesaver. 

[Sharkey167]

My friends mostly have the "he's a jerk, just get over it" attitude, which really doesn't help.  This board too, has been a lifesaver. 

Exactly, besides my best friend most of them (including my family) just say "be grateful it's not you, you gotta forget about it." Which is not helpful.

[caughtnreleased]

My friends mostly have the "he's a jerk, just get over it" attitude, which really doesn't help.  This board too, has been a lifesaver. 

Ditto. A few of my friends are completely dismissive about it, and I feel embarrassed that someone like him has had such an impact on me... .   It's 2.5 months NC for me. Setting up an aptmt with a T... . not to work on him, but on me. the idea feels good

[Sharkey167]

Ditto. A few of my friends are completely dismissive about it, and I feel embarrassed that someone like him has had such an impact on me... .   It's 2.5 months NC for me. Setting up an aptmt with a T... . not to work on him, but on me. the idea feels good [/quote]
It does feel good. I love psychology and I spent so much time analyzing her it will be good to as Clarice Starling said, "turn that high powered perception on myself."

[caughtnreleased]

Ditto. A few of my friends are completely dismissive about it, and I feel embarrassed that someone like him has had such an impact on me... .   It's 2.5 months NC for me. Setting up an aptmt with a T... . not to work on him, but on me. the idea feels good

It does feel good. I love psychology and I spent so much time analyzing her it will be good to as Clarice Starling said, "turn that high powered perception on myself."[/quote]
I totally agree.  And at least we can benefit from that high powered perception! Really, I think it's time to channel our energy on to things where we can actually see progress (ie: ourselves Good luck!

[Octoberfest]

Thought I would comment and add in that I DID pursue it and start the 18th.

Looking forward to getting myself back on track.

[Sharkey167]

Thought I would comment and add in that I DID pursue it and start the 18th.

Looking forward to getting myself back on track.

Amen! I had my first session on the 3rd 

[Octoberfest]

Thought I would comment and add in that I DID pursue it and start the 18th.

Looking forward to getting myself back on track.

Amen! I had my first session on the 3rd 

how was it?

[Sharkey167]

Thought I would comment and add in that I DID pursue it and start the 18th.

Looking forward to getting myself back on track.

Amen! I had my first session on the 3rd 

how was it?

Great! I felt very comfortable with him. We just established the basics and laid out some goals. I have been writing down questions I have for him as well.