My exBPDw, actually gave me indications at the end of our marriage that I would be recycled again. It's funny because although T is the one who diagnosed her, she doesn't actually know it is her with BPD but she identifies with all the traits in herself and just views them as normal.
Aside from the Liz Taylor comment on the morning she decided on the divorce, her other words were "It's just not our time but I do want to spend my life with you so I'm sure when it is our time, we will find each other again"
It's been almost 6 weeks NC now but she has tried to engage every week so far in very bizarre ways. Honestly, I don't want to go NC because I have a 2 year old daughter there, but T advised it is the best solution right now because I'm painted black and any efforts to be involved with my daughter and step daughter will just be used for control. I have no doubt that I will most likely break NC, but at a time when I am detached, have healthy boundaries enforced and able to function without being drawn in.
20 years is a pretty good record to beat, oh the joys of the internet
