Hang up calls

[Blessed0329]

Can anyone explain to me what hang-up calls are about? Regardless of whether or not the caller has BPD, why would someone do this? Especially someone with whom you no longer have a relationship... . I don't understand the point.

[recoil]

I'm guessing to hear your voice.

[Blessed0329]

I supposed that could be it. I wonder if it might also be to make sure I don't forget about him. It has been very quiet for about six weeks now, and I was beginning to think maybe it is finally over for good. Today's hangup call brought him back to the forefront of my thoughts.

[4now]

Today's hangup call brought him back to the forefront of my thoughts.

I think you answered your own question 

Perhaps it's a way to initiate contact without him needing to be too obvious.  He could always say it was a mis-dial. 

In a way it's a game of tag, now you're it.

Or it could be just simply wanting to hear you, but either way, it's made you think about him.  Sigh... .

[Willingtolearn]

Blessed0329

Did his phone number appear so you knew it was him, or was his number withheld?

I have been getting hang up calls for months. I also wonder why "They" do this.

[SurvivedLove]

My ex does the same kindda thing. But more "pocketcall" style.

I've stopped answering the phone when it happens. Well, having a broken old phone while waiting for my Samsung to come back from repair has helped me too :D

[Blessed0329]

Willingtolearn, I deleted my ex from FB mid March. That's when the hang up calls started, always from a blocked number, always to my office work phone, a call about every 10 days. The end of April he sent me a request to connect via Linked In. I accepted the request, and the hang up calls stopped. Today's was the first since LI. Today's was actually not blocked, but the caller ID indicated it came from a friend's phone. This friend of his is not someone I personally know, and not likely to have made the call for my ex. This does provide him with plausible deniability should I try to call him out on it. Weird.

[Willingtolearn]

Blessed0329

The hang up calls i get are also on my office phone, never on my home phone or mobile.  I wonder why they do it to the office phone?  Weird.

[Blessed0329]

I have thought that the calls to my work desk phone (not my work cell, personal cell, or home phone) gives my ex a sense of knowing where I am at that time.