Rockylove, what are your values. I mean, deeply, what are they?
I might be on the opposite end of the spectrum as I LOVE animals and spoil them and absolutely adore them. It's a huge
for me to even suspect someone is being unkind to them in any way.
If my guy ever raised his voice in anger to my pet (or his own!), that would be it. Sure there might be other things beneath the surface brewing, but the fact that he took whatever is going on out on the dog wouldn't fly with me. And then to twist that anger back onto me while saying that his angry outburst worked? Crazy-making = GONE!
We all have our own limits. He's shown you what he's all about. You can't change him.
Maybe the reason why you're feeling' UGH! and don't know what to say' is because there isn't anything to
say. Did he cross one of your boundaries with his behavior?