Hi guys,
Thanks for all your help as ever on here.
Just wanted to say that my BPDbf and I are working things out well, touch wood
We spent a lot of time together over the last few days. At one point a familiar topic came up for me which triggered my normal questions to him (not shouting, just calm questions that he always perceives as an attack)
He raged. I stayed calm. Strangely enough I then told him my FOO issues that I have NEVER told a b/f before. The shift in both of us was was huge and very good. It seems like these co-dep meetings and this board have actually helped me to look at my own stuff. His BPD is still there of course but it felt good to be honest with him about my issues too.
Just wanted to put that out there!