The ugly truth

[DepressIsolatedMeg]

Shouldn't have let him in at all... .

Today I found out the girl who he claimed she's just a "friend"... . he told her she's the love of his life and offered her to live with him... . He told her the same thing as what he told me. I confronted him because I am stupid, and he just lied to my face straight, still insisted they just "hung out a few times".

I broke down. I should have known it better myself. Just schedule with the therapist, I am going back to the therapy next week.

Gotta cut this man out of my life. All he brings is pain.

[eniale]

Please do not think or say you are stupid.  You are dealing with a very unstable person who no doubt has a very serious mental disorder.  You cannot expect normal behavior from such persons.  If you are like I, you never before ran up against anyone with this sort of problem, so you expect normal behavior.  You will never get it.  It is twisted thinking.  Stay with your therapist and read, read, read and research all you can on this subject.  If you are hurting, if your heart is broken, a site I found on here that helped a lot is called "Clinging to the words you loved to hear."  These people can absolutely devastate you and leave broken hearts in their path.  I know I hoped the person in my life would realize the mess they are making, but now feel he will never change and the best thing for me is to stop clinging to hope and face the painful reality.  Because we loved them, and because the familiar is always a great pull-back, we tend to try to hold on.  Big mistake.  Good luck, and stay with therapy and researching this devastating behavior.

[GreenMango]

How did therapy go?