Peter Pan Syndrome

[bruceli]

Peter Pan Syndrome can affect both sexes, but it appears more often among men. Some characteristics of the disorder are the inability of individuals to take on responsibilities, to commit themselves or to keep promises, excessive care about the way they look and personal well-being and their lack of self-confidence, even though they don’t seem to show it and actually come across as exactly the opposite.  The UGR professor declares that these people are usually scared of loneliness, which is why they try to surround themselves with people who can meet their needs. “They become anxious when they are evaluated by their work colleagues or their superiors, given they are completely intolerant towards any criticism. Sometimes they can have serious adaptation problems at work or in personal relationships.”  Another characteristic of people suffering from the ‘Peter Pan Syndrome’ is that they are constantly changing partners and looking for younger ones. “Whenever the relationship starts to ask for a high level of commitment and responsibility, they become afraid and break it off.  

These above statments/criteria fit DW to a T... . anyone else?

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[Chosen]

Sounds like they describe a lot of pwBPDs... . it certainly fits with my uH.  I think that's because most of them are actually deeply insecure and they are desperately trying to create an identity for themselves. 

[bruceli]

Sounds like they describe a lot of pwBPDs... . it certainly fits with my uH.  I think that's because most of them are actually deeply insecure and they are desperately trying to create an identity for themselves. 

Agreed... . mostly sounds like NPD though which they do refer to in most of the articles.

[Chosen]

I think (and I'm not a professional, just my observation) a lot of pwBPDs have NPD traits at certain points.  Because they're so extreme, they tend to go from extreme shame and low self-esteem to overblown self-righteousness.  Well, at least my H does.