I have to share this with you guys, in 19 years since we met, dBPDh has pretty much never did something he doesn't like because I want to do it on a good day... . he's been in a slump for the last 2 weeks, which usually means he "hides" in our basement.
I've started going for a hour or two swim at my parent's house, but last night I was had to cancel since he said he wanted to be with me (I tend to text him as I'm on my way home from work to make sure we don't need anything at home... . last night his response was
company)
So as we are sitting on the couch talking, he asked if I was going to go swimming, to which I said said:"You asked for company, so I'm not going and it's OK." and just continued our conversation. About 2 mins into it, he get's up and said:" Well, I'm going to grab my bathing suit,
we are going to take a dip in the pool and a quick visit, just get the dog's water bowl."
Let's just say he didn't have to say it twice.
This is huge, he's not feeling good but he did something to help himself, he's not a swimmer (in 19 years, this is the 5th time he's worn his swim suit)... . and he was going to visit his mother-in-law, knowing full well he would have 100% of her attention since we were the only ones there (and mom and I had talked allot during the day, so she had nothing new to tell me really). We had a nice evening, just relaxing in the pool and talking about everything and nothing. I could see he was making great efforts to hold his end of the conversation but he held his own.
Let's just say that when we got home, he went right to bed... . he was exhausted from all of it.