Large rage - first time letting the kids chose a break.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I am so tired from yesterday.

uBPDh decided to stay home instead of going to the 4th party.  He said it was too hot.

I had found out earlier in the week he was using the kids' IPad to look at porn.  I hadn't said anything yet and was waiting until our counseling session.  But I cleared the history in the morning and sure enough, when we returned from the party, he had be looking while we were away.

So I told him I needed to talk to him.  I said I didn't want him using the kids' IPad to look at porn and I put a password on it so he couldn't use it (already had to do this on my work computer to keep him off).  I also told him I had put it away.

He went into the bedroom, got it, and hid it.  He can't get into it but he still has it and won't let the kids use it.

I told him I was taking a break - I didn't think I was coming back but I didn't tell him.  I told him I would keep the cell on and he could call me if he wanted.  The kids wanted to go with me, so I let them.  s5 said in his earshot that he wished he didn't have this daddy.

We went to one of our safehouses and I told them what had happened.  I really didn't see any other way out except going home, so we went.  While he wasn't normal, he was no longer raging.

He was then gone for 5 hours this morning and hasn't told me where he was. 

I told him again he needed to give the kids their IPad, he still refuses, trying to tell me he will make a deal that if I take off the code, they can have it.  I keep telling him no.  He keeps getting upset and I keep staying calm. 

We have the next counselor appointment Monday.  I have no idea what the next two days are going to look like.

[Mcgddss]

I am so tired from yesterday.

uBPDh decided to stay home instead of going to the 4th party.  He said it was too hot.

I had found out earlier in the week he was using the kids' IPad to look at porn.  I hadn't said anything yet and was waiting until our counseling session.  But I cleared the history in the morning and sure enough, when we returned from the party, he had be looking while we were away.

So I told him I needed to talk to him.  I said I didn't want him using the kids' IPad to look at porn and I put a password on it so he couldn't use it (already had to do this on my work computer to keep him off).  I also told him I had put it away.

He went into the bedroom, got it, and hid it.  He can't get into it but he still has it and won't let the kids use it.

I told him I was taking a break - I didn't think I was coming back but I didn't tell him.  I told him I would keep the cell on and he could call me if he wanted.  The kids wanted to go with me, so I let them.  s5 said in his earshot that he wished he didn't have this daddy.

We went to one of our safehouses and I told them what had happened.  I really didn't see any other way out except going home, so we went.  While he wasn't normal, he was no longer raging.

He was then gone for 5 hours this morning and hasn't told me where he was. 

I told him again he needed to give the kids their IPad, he still refuses, trying to tell me he will make a deal that if I take off the code, they can have it.  I keep telling him no.  He keeps getting upset and I keep staying calm. 

We have the next counselor appointment Monday.  I have no idea what the next two days are going to look like.

[briefcase]

I hope the counsellor can help you guys with this issue.  It sounds like he's addicted to porn.  Does he acknowledge any problem with porn?  Or deny it?