Faking pregnancy

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

One way to burst her bubble - call her mom and tell her the "Good News"!

I know, bad idea, I wouldn't actually do it, but man it could be fun to be a fly on the wall next time she talked to her mom!

[Waddams]

One way to burst her bubble - call her mom and tell her the "Good News"!

I know, bad idea, I wouldn't actually do it, but man it could be fun to be a fly on the wall next time she talked to her mom!

[motherof1yearold]

One way to burst her bubble - call her mom and tell her the "Good News"!

I know, bad idea, I wouldn't actually do it, but man it could be fun to be a fly on the wall next time she talked to her mom!

Hahaha! It certainly would teach her a lesson! 

[Retro1974]

Truth will out finally today folks. I got a Facebook message saying she had an urgent appointment at the doctors. About 30mins later, she said that there was no baby and she has suffered from a chemical pregnancy.

Now maybe that is the case - maybe she did have one but she went from apparently really upset but seemed okay to go to a soccer game tonight. So I doubt there ever was one. She asked will I be still involved in her life after this as she is apparently grieving. Not replied but I know my answer would the most obvious and direct. She thinks by telling everyone that I've not supported her through the 'aftermath' is gonna make me uncomfortable - I could somehow understand that if she told more then apparently two people.

Time to move on I reckon!

[Free One]

Time to move on I reckon!

Yep. Cut ties, go no contact and count yourself lucky on this one.

[motherof1yearold]

Truth will out finally today folks. I got a Facebook message saying she had an urgent appointment at the doctors. About 30mins later, she said that there was no baby and she has suffered from a chemical pregnancy.

Now maybe that is the case - maybe she did have one but she went from apparently really upset but seemed okay to go to a soccer game tonight. So I doubt there ever was one. She asked will I be still involved in her life after this as she is apparently grieving. Not replied but I know my answer would the most obvious and direct. She thinks by telling everyone that I've not supported her through the 'aftermath' is gonna make me uncomfortable - I could somehow understand that if she told more then apparently two people.

Time to move on I reckon!

If she had a chemical pregnancy, she wouldn't have had a test allegedly tell her she is 5 weeks pregnant (LOL) She would also in no way be able to go to a soccer game, as she will be in pain, bleeding, passing clots, and products of conception. So obviously , there was nothing to prove a real chemical pregnancy or any pregnancy, the heat was cracking down on her, and now she has miscarried . Exactly how I predicted . (pretty much)

Also, to prove a chemical pregnancy, she would have had to have a vaginal ultrasound or a regular sonogram (which would prove no heartbeat, etc)

If she were 6 weeks pregnant, she would likely need a D&C to scrape out the remaining products of conception that generally will not pass naturally.

This story is so riddled with inconsistencies. Women think they can snow men because they don't know about pregnancy , etc.

If she did not have the D&C , then she is actively miscarrying right now. Which can take a minimum of weeks for it to be completely over. There is no way she would be able to go to a soccer game in that condition, since it is just like labor , with dilation and everything.

Sorry this happened! I would definitely separate yourself indefinitely !

[Retro1974]

Hey folks,

So I have cut ties and not contacted her since Tuesday when she told me the news above. I've had the odd missed call over the weekend from a 'Withheld' number, which I assume was her though she has tried to get hold of me through a couple of my friends (and has told them in brief her story). She has just contacted me on Facebook today saying now that her 'chemical pregnancy' was a case of the 'disappearing twin'(?) and now she is back to regenerate the questions that I had almost a fortnight ago.

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[Forward2free]

Sounds like she is trying to re-engage you again.

What she is claiming is impossible.

Stay firm on no-contact and she will run out of reasons to contact you.

You need to set and maintain your boundaries, she will not do it for you. Eventually she'll accept your terms if she knows you mean them.

It's like parenting a child who wants money for candy - if you give in just once, they will think you will give in every time and try what worked last time... .

[motherof1yearold]

Dear lord... .


I had a disappearing twin too, and her entire story is FLAWED , not possible at all. She really thinks you are a fool! Time to go NO contact if you ask me!

This is by far one of the craziest faked pregnancy stories I have ever heard!

[Retro1974]

So three weeks on and thought I'd update.

I maintained no contact with her at all and stuck to it. The only unsettling moments were a couple of missed phone calls to my landline from a number that I didn't recognise but looked familiar. One at 11am Saturday before last and then again at 11pm both Saturday and Sunday night. My landline is on silent so I didn't hear her.

Anyway, with it all seeming as if it calmed down, she's managed to find my POF profile and sent me a message. Still appears that she's still sticking to the story that she's pregnant with this 'disappearing/vanishing twin' thing; she's apparently still hasn't terminated and is still indecisive but she's now seeing someone. She says she sent me a scan a week ago in the post (not got it) and now she's saying she's 8wk pregnant. Hmm, we've split up for 9 and sex (discarding that evening of confusion) 10.

I'm not worried, just a bit unsettled as I've found out that this number is hers - and she says she was gonna make a surprise visit. And I've 2 missed calls this evening... .

[ForeverDad]

You've already set your boundary, send me doctor's proof or join you for a doctor visit.

However, if she does eventually have a baby and the math works, then get a DNA test to confirm or rule out your parenthood.

[motherof1yearold]

You really have to put your foot down here, she is maintaining the entire pregnancy gig to keep you around. It doesn't matter that she has a new 'prey' that she is seeing, she still wants you on the back burner (fear of abandonment coming in to play here)

I would send her ONE, last , very clear message about what you intend to do.

An example : " I'm going to tell you one last time to stop contacting me. I am going to ask you do not contact me about your termination or pregnancy as well. If you choose to continue your pregnancy, I will order paternity after the baby is born. Until then, for any reason, do not contact me."

Seems pretty simple, right?

Just have to REALLY put your foot down. She is playing a huge game, and seems to even be obsessed with you.

[Free One]

You really have to put your foot down here, she is maintaining the entire pregnancy gig to keep you around. It doesn't matter that she has a new 'prey' that she is seeing, she still wants you on the back burner (fear of abandonment coming in to play here)

I would send her ONE, last , very clear message about what you intend to do.

An example : " I'm going to tell you one last time to stop contacting me. I am going to ask you do not contact me about your termination or pregnancy as well. If you choose to continue your pregnancy, I will order paternity after the baby is born. Until then, for any reason, do not contact me."

Seems pretty simple, right?

Just have to REALLY put your foot down. She is playing a huge game, and seems to even be obsessed with you.

Yes! Set a FIRM boundary like this... . then be ready for her to blow up for a couple of days (an extinction burst)... . then things should be quite if you just ignore.

[motherof1yearold]

Yep, like Free One said, that is likely how it will play out. Extinction burst, and her likely trying to slither her way back in after a few days. Expect it.

[WhenWiLLitEnd]

So three weeks on and thought I'd update.

I maintained no contact with her at all and stuck to it. The only unsettling moments were a couple of missed phone calls to my landline from a number that I didn't recognise but looked familiar. One at 11am Saturday before last and then again at 11pm both Saturday and Sunday night. My landline is on silent so I didn't hear her.

Anyway, with it all seeming as if it calmed down, she's managed to find my POF profile and sent me a message. Still appears that she's still sticking to the story that she's pregnant with this 'disappearing/vanishing twin' thing; she's apparently still hasn't terminated and is still indecisive but she's now seeing someone. She says she sent me a scan a week ago in the post (not got it) and now she's saying she's 8wk pregnant. Hmm, we've split up for 9 and sex (discarding that evening of confusion) 10.

I'm not worried, just a bit unsettled as I've found out that this number is hers - and she says she was gonna make a surprise visit. And I've 2 missed calls this evening... .

I was in a similar situation as you except the girl was pregnant.

Basically she said she can never have kids, next thing she's pregnant and making me tell my family and she is telling everyone she knows.

I barely knew this girl, it's up to me to tell my family and I never got a choice.

Then I got a girlfriend and she contacted her on facebook and told her.

You should count your lucky stars if this girl isn't pregnant, because if she is, your life is about to be turned upside down.

In my case the shelia is nothing but a bully and basically everyone else thinks shes lovely and I am a dirtbag for not seeing my son.

But in reality she alienates my son and uses him as a manipulation tool, I'm going to court soon.

She is happy about this, shes been telling everyone I should be locked up and they will be safe, .

I've never even done anything wrong, these people are just a law unto their selves and they have everyone bluffed.

I pray for you champ.

[scraps66]

Have not read the entire thread, but, from my experience - just stay away.  This has recycle written all over it, pregnant, not pregnant, bleeding, FOG, etc.  Pregnancy and the eventual children are one very concrete way of keeping you at least at arm's length... . to abuse, to humiliate, to slander as dirt by comparison and as the vehicle for her to create her own distorted identity, and as a way of bleeding you of finances for the next 18yrs.  I'm not saying this is or would happen in your case - but it is happening in my case.  One child born out of entrapment, he now has severe behavioral issues, and a second conceived in a way more disgusting than entrapment.

Do not make contact, "sex happened," let it be the last instance.  I can also repeat and recant the hot and heavy physical - at the start, that would eventually evaporate to nothing, and no interest on my part.  It's a pattern with BPs.

Just stay away.