MsAmberJade
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« on: July 20, 2013, 12:06:39 PM » |
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Hi,
I'm having some issues with my BPD husband, and I wanted some opinions.
We officially separated two months ago, after two years of marriage (that were smooth for the most part), but the past six months were rocky (stress, health issues, family issues, etc.)
I'm admitting some fault here because he wasn't diagnosed with BPD until very recently, so I wasn't being supportive, wasn't validating his emotions, or doing any of the things he needed.
I didn't understand some of his behavior, such as thinking I was leaving him when I'd go for a walk or get a drink in the middle of the night, and I would tell him he was being ridiculous or something.
He kept talking about how I would leave him, so he needed to leave before I left him. He moved back to Texas where we had lived before moving to Indiana. I'm moving back to Texas in September (I'm moving there regardless of what happens with him and I).
Anyway, I'm willing to be supportive, validate, going to therapy with him, etc. to keep our marriage together, because he is a very sweet guy and I can see that he's suffering inside.
I was black to him at first, because he blocked and was ignoring me in every way possible, but over the couple of months, I think I'm becoming more white again, because he's unblocked me and is talking a little bit. He has however been talking to a girl for a month or so, but it's not very serious (don't ask how I know haha).
So my question is, do BPDs come back? Or should I just file for divorce and not try anymore?
Based on the way he's speaking to me and our past, and knowing how he is, I'm getting the vibe that he's waiting until I'm down there and then he's going to try to fix things with us. He texted me last week asking, "So what's your plan for moving?" I just really need some advice!
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