Changing ME

[mama m]

So i have decided to keep a "family" relationship with the enabling family members around my BPD MIL. They want a relationship and I'm just not ready to walk away from everyone yet.

SO they want to go out to lunch.

HOW do I not hate them, yell, punch, resent... . and just become indifferent to them... . so that way we can have a nice 'political' lunch.

How do I become indifferent when I'm filled with so much anger and resentment for the past 6 years!


Roar... .

[Santa Clara]

Hi mama m.

Do you have a therapist?  A therapist can be hugely helpful when these kids of situations come up.

Good luck.

[CBoo]

 

Are you ok with being angry and feeling resentment?  I wouldn't fight these feelings.  Accepting them will give you more control - and help you know how to express these safely.  Also, think about what soothes you when you feel like that.   Remember you are not your feelings... .

Oh and... . it took me years to be able to do that!  Realised expressing it three lines makes it sound like I think it's easy!